3 Signs a Guy Is Not Interested in a Relationship with You

Have you ever been dating a guy where everything was going great? You’re having the time of your life, the chemistry between you is amazing and you often let your emotions get ahead of you and you start fantasizing that this guy might be “the one”.

But then, out of nowhere, things change.

The guy who used to call and text all the time suddenly withdraws and changes his behavior.

And as you wait for his calls and texts you start scratching your head trying to figure out what’s going on.

And you try to cut him some slack. Maybe he’s too busy. Maybe he just needs some space. Maybe he’s been burned by his ex and he needs some more time to open up and trust you.

And you wait….and wait. Hoping that one day he’ll come around and things will change. And you might even convince yourself that those crumbs he occasionally throws you are enough to build a relationship on.

But the longer you stay the more you look for evidence that your gut is wrong.

You ignore the fact that he doesn’t call when he says he will. You ignore the fact that when he actually does call, he comes up with an excuse as to why he was too busy (note***isn’t this the same guy who had no problem calling and texting you all the time when you first started going out?)

And sooner or later you come to realize that this guy is just like all of the other “boys” out there. He’s really not that into you. He only calls when it’s convenient or it’s in his best interest. He’s certainly not looking for a relationship. A fact, that is backed up by his actions.

So, why can’t he just man up and tell you the truth?

Sounds so simple doesn’t it? And in fact, if all men and women learned to tell the truth, the whole dating game would become much easier and much more enjoyable.

Unfortunately you cannot make another human being be honest with you. No matter how much you say you want the truth, a guy is going to tell you what he wants you to know. And he usually tells you things that are in his best interest.

But there are 3 things you can do to recognize a guy who is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you:

1)      Observe his actions – If a guy is interested in you, he will show you by his CONSISTENT actions. And this is where many women struggle. A guy will drop the ball consistently, but as long as he throws a woman a lil crumb, she’s going to take it and let him get away with his juvenile and immature behavior

2)      He Doesn’t Keep His Agreements – Look, life gets busy and things often come up. But a guy who is interested in pursuing a relationship with you will do what  he can to keep his agreements with you and when circumstances come up which make it impossible to do so, he will go out of his way to make it up to you.

3)      He Makes Excuses – a telltale sign that a guy isn’t interested in a relationship is when he makes excuses for why he’s not calling or spending time with you. I find it ironic that the guys who call and text all the time before the first date suddenly have busy and hectic lives after you first meet.

The truth is we live in a world where we can communicate to anyone at anytime if we wanted to. No matter how busy a man is he can find the time (if he wanted to) to give you a quick call, e-mail or text to let you know that he is thinking about you and wants you in his life.

The bottom-line ladies is,  if he can find the time to pee and take a dump, then he can find the time to reach out to you.

Several years ago there was a movie called. “He’s Just Not That Into you”. Well, the sad truth is if a guy is not making the time to call or see you, if he’s not keeping his agreements with you and he’s making excuses as to why he won’t make the time to be with you, then he is not the type of man who is deserving of you and your love.

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Joe Amoia

About Joe Amoia

Joe spent 14 years of his life searching for love. In 1999, after his engagement ended just 30 days before he was scheduled to walk down the aisle, he decided to take a break for some “mirror time”.

As a result of his self-imposed exile he soon realized that his struggles were due to the fact that he was never taught how to create a happy, healthy and fulfilling long term relationship. Within a few short weeks he developed a strategy which helped him find his wife and the type of love he had always wanted. He has been married to his wife Natalie for 12 years and they are the proud parents of 3 boys.

In 2009, after years of sharing his dating and relationship strategies with his clients, he decided to share his strategies with the world.

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Responses

  1. Cat says:

    Thanks for this info. It just helped crystalize what I have been thinking in the back of my mind about a current relationship, but was too afraid to admit to myself. Time to move on!

  2. Cat Williford says:

    Once again, Joe, you hit the truth nail on the relationship head. If we have to mentally arm-wrestle about someone’s intentions based on wacky behavior, it is time to get “moving on” as a wise friend of mine says. Thank you for your honesty.

  3. MommaSpice says:

    This is pretty much what I’ve been thinking about someone I have seen a few times. We’ve known each other for about a year and when I was in town in April (we’re about 2000 miles from each other), we were able to get together and cemented what we both knew we felt for one another. I was able to make two trips back home over the past couple of months and our relationship was certainly full of passion, but then when I would contact him before leaving town, no response for weeks. I was promised more time together this last weekend, but excuses were made, messages not returned (via phone, texting, fb-ing) until he showed up at my hotel room. When we are together, I’m amazed out how we are together, and then nothing.

    Pretty difficult for me emotionally as I’m just getting back out there after having lost my husband to cancer years ago. This person is the first one that made me feel like I could possibly move forward and find another, but the hot and cold of this makes me want to crawl back into my shell and stay there. Don’t like feeling like I do.

    Anyways, appreciate your straightforwardness.

  4. Ha says:

    This is happening to my friend right now but his actions are different. Every time they hang out he would make out, hold hands and hug her at the same time. It confuses her a lot and she thought he’s interested so she asked him the question and he said to her that aged mattered because the 5 year gap difference where she’s older then him and it’ll be hard for a serious relationship, I don’t quite understand my friend looks 21 as she doesn’t look like her age or even act like it. But then I guess there was another problem this was the time before he told her he only wanted to be friends so she asked him to accompany her to a party and of course he replied he’d be her date but just only yesterday night that he bothered to call her on the phone and give her an excuse saying he needs time for himself so she attended the party alone the next day. It’s so confusing where he’s just playing with her heart or he just wants to be friends how can he commit then make excuses after what twit!

  5. JACKIE says:

    I was at a job for 9 months my boss who is married is very unhappy he wants to leave buts says its cheaper to stay then to leave there is a conection between us and I feel we both want to be with each other he wants to have sex but 6 weeks ago I leaft for another job he wants me back working for him and says when he has something full time he will let me know do you think he only want me there so we can fool around

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