Have you ever been in one of those roller-coaster relationships?
It’s the one where a minute you’re up and everything appears to be going great and then out of nowhere things suddenly change and you hit emotional rock bottom.
After things calm down and the roller-coaster stops you rack your brain trying to figure out what’s going on. It just doesn’t’ make sense? You haven’t changed. You haven’t done anything differently. So, why is this happening?
And the more stay and ride the roller-coaster, the more confused you get…and the harder it is for you to get off, right?
Well, if you’re a strong woman you realize this isn’t the type of man and relationship you want and you decide to get off. You decide to cut your losses. There’s a part of you that knows that you deserve better. You don’t deserve to be in a relationship where you’re emotions are in a constant state of confusion.
If you’re like a lot of other women, you continue to stay and ride the roller coaster. You come up with all the reasons and excuses as to why it’s not that bad and you can live with it. And the longer you stay, the worse things get.
Until one of two things happen…
1. You reach your limit and you decide you’ve had enough. At this moment you decide to get off the emotional roller-coaster. And within a few weeks realize it was the best thing you could have done.
You realize that no matter how much fun and excitement you were experiencing those moments were fleeting and you would never get to experience the type of relationship you really wanted.
2. You decide to stay and you come up with every excuse, rationalization and justification as to why it’s OK to do so.
But the irony is no matter what you tell yourself, you never get to experience the type of happy and fulfilling relationship you really desire…and deserve.
The unfortunate part is the longer you stay, the harder it is for you to get out. Kind of like the mafia, right?
But what if there were signs? What if there were clues which could help you recognize right away that you were with the wrong guy? What if there were certain indicators which let you know that you were in the wrong relationship?
Wouldn’t it be easier to get out and walk away before you got more emotionally involved and attached?
Well, guess what… there are!
In fact there are 5 such indicators. And what’s great about these indicators is they’re so simple and easy to recognize. The reason they’re so simple to recognize is that they’re all negative emotions that you experience. And if you find yourself experiencing any of these negative emotions on a regular basis it is a telltale sign that your needs aren’t being met and you are with the wrong guy.
The 5 Indicators
- Consistent Upset
- Consistent Frustration
- Consistent Sadness
- Consistent Anger
- Consistent Resentment
First of all notice that each emotion is preceded by the word consistent. Because the reality is if you are going to be in a relationship with a guy there are going to be moments where you experience one or more of these emotions.
That’s normal and believe it or not it’s even healthy, because learning to communicate and resolve conflict is an important part of a healthy and strong relationship.
But when you start experiencing any of these negative emotions on a regular basis and no matter how hard you to try to make things work you see that nothing changes that is when you wasn’t to pay attention.
These negative emotions are designed to let you know that one or more of your core needs aren’t being met. And being involved with a guy who does not meet your essential needs will NEVER lead to a happy and fulfilling long term relationship.
I see so many women stay in unhappy and unfulfilling relationships hoping that things will change and things will get better. But the reality is it rarely happens.
If you are really committed to having the type of relationship you really want, one that is consistently happy and fulfilling make sure to pay attention to your consistent feelings. And if at any time you see that you are consistently experiencing one or more of these emotions and things aren’t’ changing, there’s only one thing for you to do…RUN!
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