Too often women have this nagging feeling they aren’t being treated the way they should be.
He seems nice enough, but after a few dates you end up sitting around waiting for him to do the right thing. The truth is, most men will not do the right thing, but will do what’s most convenient for THEM.
For many guys, they are not setting out to intentionally hurt the ladies in their lives. They simply do what they are allowed to do. They give crumbs because women don’t expect cake in the form of respect, time, attention, generosity, and so on.
So the question is, are you deciding to live for crumbs instead of cake?
Dating for crumbs means you are willing to lower your standards and self-respect just to be with and/or have the attention of a man. Crumbs undermine your true heart’s desire.
Hopefully this list of 5 crummy behaviors from so-called “nice guys” will help you recognize and reject negative behaviors and begin accepting positive ones.
Let’s examine each of the 5 crummy behaviors we accept to get the attention and love we desire:
1. Accepting late night calls (and text messages)
Accepting or allowing late night calls seems innocent enough. You like this guy a lot and want to spend as much time as possible talking to him. He says he likes you and wants to get to know you. It all sounds good and you are just excited any guy is calling you. But this is not the best way to start a relationship and you end up feeling…used. Your time for sleep is interrupted and pretty soon you fall into a pattern that leads to other undesirable behavior and conversations.
2. Accepting excuses for tardiness
You and your guy have been dating for a while but he has a bad habit of being late. We are not talking a few minutes late; we are talking hours late. And he thinks you are obligated to wait for him and expects you to behave as if nothing has happened. He probably gets offended and defensive if you bring it up or is upset when he finally arrives.
3. Accepting forgotten birthdays and holidays
He not only forgets your birthday but he forgets Valentine’s Day too! His excuse is he doesn’t celebrate or buy gifts during holidays because they have become so commercialized. He complains about all this despite the fact he accepts your gifts and would be angry if you forgot or ignored his birthday.
4. Accepting disrespectful language
Some say it’s just a normal part of life and everybody is doing it. But if you cringe every time a dirty word comes out of his mouth, read on. Allowing disrespectful language is accepting crumbs. You should not have to be assaulted in every private conversation you have with him. If your ears are burning or you feel dirty with every conversation you owe it to yourself to speak up or stop speaking to him altogether.
5. Accepting constant sexual innuendo
Like bad language, it has become the norm for men to use sexual innuendo with the women they date. For some reason they think this is cute and laugh it off. Some women love it, others don’t. If you don’t and are on the receiving end it is not funny. Allowing this constant barrage of suggestive language with a guy you are not even married to is demeaning and disrespectful.
Those are the 5 crummy behaviors women accept that can lead to toxic relationships and heartache. They could easily lead into worse situations of physical and deep psychological abuse.
You owe it to yourself to raise the standards to you start attracting better quality men who can give you cake instead of crumbs.