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So you think the way to attract men is by getting a hip new manicure with glittery tips?

He might imagine them grazing down his back while he is ravaging you, but that is not all of it. Getting your nails done is part of it if makes you feel good about you!

Your nails will not be clawing at a guy to get him to like you. If it makes you feel good chatting with blinged-out-Sally (who treats you like a BFF for 1 hour each week), then go for it!

When you want to know how to attract men, part of it is how you look but the looking good part has to do with you and your self-esteem. When you look good, is makes you feel good. Feeling good is the basic idea behind the law of attraction.

The main thing I want you to take home today is if you are feeling bummed out you are actually pushing love away instead of attracting it.

What is the frequency you are putting out there? Is it one of “there are no good men out there,” or “being single sucks?” If so, you are putting out negative feelings toward relationships.

1. Do whatever it is that makes you feel good.

If you are having a bad day, get through the feelings and do something to feel better. This can be anything. That could be playing video games, or taking a nap (I’m over the video games thing myself), but whatever works for you.

Another great way is to start meditating. If you don’t know how to do that, there are tons of resources online that can help you learn. You really just need to focus on breathing and be quiet for a little while. There are other ways that are very effective you can find out about too.

2. Tell those nasty voices where to go.

If there are voices in your head bringing up past mistakes, or beating you up in any way, tell them to keep their trap shut. Seriously. That little gremlin talking to you in your head is just a thought, and you are in charge of it. These little thoughts that talk nasty to you are holding you back in your love life. So you can literally take a walk and tell those nasty thoughts to take a walk too! Shoo!

3.  Do something that feels good.

There. I said it again. I want you to remember that this is the most important part.

After that little blabbermouth is gone, take care of you by doing something that is relaxing or fun. Tap into that good feeling and savor it. Appreciate feeling better, fantastic even! Focus on the good things in your life.

4. Change your mindset and retrain your brain to better-feeling thoughts.

This is the affirmations part. Affirmations are pretty much the opposite of the gremlin thoughts. Affirmations are the things you want in your life, the good feeling things, and you focus on those for a while, keep them present and positive.

These are things you may not have in your life (like saying nice things to yourself), but you can adopt them. If you want love in your life, learn how to stop pushing love away and begin to attract it instead.

If you set aside time every day to make sure you do what you need to do to feel good, and talk nicely to yourself, your life will start to shift fast and the love you are looking for will be on the same page as you. You are awesome, and maybe you and your partner just aren’t quite ready to meet each other. But after using these steps you will be ready!

Dina Z Colada

Dina is the founder of EPIC Dating, Love and Relationships, and she helps people build great relationships with themselves and others. Sign up today for her newsletter and get the free eBook How to Stop Pushing Men Away & Get The EPIC Love You Want, and a free downloadable love attracting heart meditation. For more go here:

Dina is an online profile makeover expert and will help you attract the right kind of people with the right kind-of profile. She knows how to speak to men and women. When people see your new profile, they will feel it in their hearts and in their pants.

Her newest book How to Stop Being a Doormat and Get the Love You Want is now available on amazon kindle.

With the tools she offers her clients and thousands of fans from all around the globe, she has experienced what she teaches. Her passion is people, relationships, and reading lots of books about them.

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  • Mary Nov 29, 2014 at 2:38 pm

    LOA says to find a better feeling thought & feel those happy emotions…. How do I do that?
    It’s very hard to feel happy when you feel distraught & sad.!!!

    • Dina Colada   Mary Feb 7, 2015 at 10:25 am


      You can start with the smallest things you are grateful for, you are lucky to be breathing, have food to eat and a place to sleep. The sun comes up every day and you don’t have to do anything. Coming from a place of gratitude will shift your mindset.

  • Manilowfan Mar 16, 2014 at 6:14 pm

    I have a situation that needs personal attention because my ex has unusual butexciting fantasies Can you reach out to me. i dont want to mess up all I have learned.


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