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Have you ever wondered how to tell if a man wants a relationship?

Let’s say you’re dating a guy. You go on several dates with and things seem to be going really well. He calls you pretty often he asks you on more dates and sends you good morning texts like “how are you today sweetheart?”

You’re really starting to like this guy.

But you’re still unsure where he stands on the relationship roadmap.

This man is so sweet but you still have questions about what he is thinking. You just can’t get out of your head wondering:

  • Man Sleeping  With Woman ThinkingWhat is he thinking about me?
  • Where is this relationship going?
  • Is it going anywhere?
  • What is thinking about us?

Then the fear creeps in. The uncertainty, and over thinking every little thing he says and does takes you over.

I remember the over analyzing and what that feels like. That’s why I help people like you, because the feelings are awful and there are easy ways to go about things in love that nobody ever taught us.

Things like what to say and when to say it. I know you’ve gotten burned in love, we all have and you feel like a scared little kitten and are afraid  to get hurt again.

With all of these questions and doubts in your mind, it makes it hard to see what is really going on.

Because you are afraid to hear something you don’t want to hear.

But, there is hope. There is one sure fire way to know exactly what the man is thinking.

I know, it sounds too good to be true. This technique is like an x-ray into a man’s mind.

What is it?

I have to know what she’s talking about, you think to yourself.

Here are the steps…

You can ask him one simple question.

Don’t call him and tell him that you need to have the talk. That will send him running faster than you can imagine. If you do it that way, he will have plenty of time to think about what he’s in trouble for this time.

He doesn’t want you to be like his mother.

Drumroll please…

When you’re together on the taking a walk or over dinner casually say this…

“I’m just curious about something, what is it that you’re looking for in a relationship?”

Then be quiet, smile, and look in his eyes. Do not; I repeat do not answer the question for him.

Man thinking and What Plays in His MindHe is a big boy he can formulate an answer himself, and it might be one you don’t like, but then again, you might like what he says.

And when he tells you what he’s looking for, listen to what he actually says. If he says “I just got out of big relationship and I’m not really looking for anything serious right now,” that is exactly what he means.

He does not mean, “just keep seeing me and show me how awesome you are and then I’ll change my mind and I want to get married next year.”

Projecting your wishes on a person never works.

This is the mistake I have seen so many women make. The mistake is asking a man a question, and then not hearing what he is actually saying.

We need to ask what it is that he is looking for because you can’t formulate your answer for him in your mind no matter how hard you try.

When men communicate, they are usually pretty simple and straightforward. Men do not talk in a roundabout way. It’s kind of like when men go shopping.

Let’s say a man needs a shirt. He goes to store. He opens door he walks right past the accessories, the pharmacy and the shoe department He walks directly to the man’s clothing department. He keeps his eyes peeled for the shirt racks, picks one out. Walks to the counter, pays for the shirt, and leaves the store.

Then he gets on with his day. Men speak like they shop. They don’t meander around the store with their words and waste their time.

So when a man tells you something open your heart, listen with your ears, and trust what he’s telling you is his truth.

You might, you might not like what he says, but you have to respect him for where he is in his life.

If your relationship road map looks different than his then you might not be a good fit for one another. At that point keep your options open and start dating other men, and don’t try to change him, because it never ever works.

Dina Z Colada

Dina is the founder of EPIC Dating, Love and Relationships, and she helps people build great relationships with themselves and others. Sign up today for her newsletter and get the free eBook How to Stop Pushing Men Away & Get The EPIC Love You Want, and a free downloadable love attracting heart meditation. For more go here:

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With the tools she offers her clients and thousands of fans from all around the globe, she has experienced what she teaches. Her passion is people, relationships, and reading lots of books about them.

What Do You Think?

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  • Maggie R Feb 6, 2015 at 11:24 pm

    When I asked that question, the response was “Let’s just see where this goes. Everything is fine.” Interpretation for that response please????

    • Dina Colada   Maggie R Feb 12, 2015 at 7:34 pm

      Im not sure whaling question you asked. Can you give me more details?

  • confused Feb 6, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    So if he says he is thinking of marrying me. …what does that mean? He hasn’t given a date yet .he’s just thinking. …For the past few months


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