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When you walk down the aisle and tie the knot you never imagine that one day you will be back out on the dating scene again.

Dating Again After Divorce and Finding the Right Man for YouHowever with 42% of marriages in the UK ending in divorce more and more of us find ourselves looking for love once again. It can seem extremely daunting and overwhelming at first but it’s definitely not as scary as it seems.

In fact it can actually be the most liberating and exciting part of being divorced as you get to experience those heart fluttering butterflies and that raw passion of a new relationship that often dissipates during a marriage. Going on a date, getting lovely text messages and the very first kiss are all things to look forward to.

Grab this as an opportunity to get back to who you are and who you want to be. It’s time for a fresh start and to rediscover your true identity as an individual again. Try out some changes such as wearing a new colour or getting a different haircut. It’s time to reinvent yourself as much as you are comfortable with. A change will be a breath of fresh air for you, even if it is a small one.

Here Are My 5 Steps to Dating After Your Divorce:

1. Be Open to Dating Someone Who Doesn’t Fit Your Stereotype

Many of us believe we know what type of look we go for and we rule out half of the population! It’s always good to keep an open mind and try new things. You may surprise yourself by going for the complete opposite of you ex.

2. Be Safe

If you are meeting up with someone you don’t know then always let a friend know where you are. People are not always what they seem, especially if you meet them on line. Don’t’ be afraid to make your excuses and leave if you feel uncomfortable.

3. Be Yourself

Of course you want to show the best side of you on a date, however honesty is key to a successful relationship. Highlight your best points without exaggerating as this could come back to haunt you later on if the relationship progresses. If they don’t like the real you then its best that you find that out now and don’t waste any more time on them.

4. Leave Your Baggage at Home

Don’t talk about your ex or past failed relationships. Nobody likes to hear a sob story and if you talk badly about your ex it doesn’t reflect well on you. There will be plenty of time for discussing your history further down the line, but not on the first date!

5. Smile and Ask Questions

This is a great way to kill first date nerves. You will appear more relaxed if you smile and more attractive. By asking your date questions you will be able to skilfully keep the conversation flowing as everyone likes to talk about themselves!

Remember that dating should be fun. Don’t put pressure on yourself to find the perfect partner straight away. Enjoy the journey and accept that you will have to kiss a few frogs along the way. It’s all part of the fun and your new adventure.

You only live once so you may as well enjoy it!

Sara Davison

Sara Davison is an expert break-up and divorce coach, author and media commentator who has set up the UK’s first, one-to-one bespoke divorce coaching program; offering practical, strategic advice and techniques to help provide much needed support individuals navigating the process of divorce.

An NLP Master Practitioner, with over 16 years’ coaching experience, and her own personal experience of divorce, Sara offers a life-line for real people struggling to cope with the often stressful and emotional circumstances that occur as a result of divorce.

In 2015 Sara launched the first in a series of useful self-help apps ‘7 Steps to a Better Break-up’, which has had achieved international acclaim and helps people to navigate the initial stages of divorce. She regularly contributed to a number of women’s magazines, newspapers and lifestyle titles writing for Closer, Female First, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, RED magazine, as well as being a regular contributor to Huffington Post. Sara was also recently awarded the ‘Specialist Coach of the Year’ Award at the Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers and Consultants in 2015.

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  • Leila Oct 3, 2015 at 1:48 am

    It sounds like a lot of fun 🙂

  • Sharla thomas Oct 1, 2015 at 8:09 pm

    Help with dating tips


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