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Bars and clubs were great places to hook-up when you were in your 20’s but if you’re still trolling the local nightlife for “the one”, alcohol infused conversations and attention seeking players stack the odds against you.

Even though 30% of married couples met through an online dating website, this leaves the rest of us finding love the old fashioned way. With hectic schedules providing minimal free time, your options may seem whittled down to your friends setting you up on awkward blind dates or the perilous office romance.  No wonder you find yourself on Friday nights complaining over beers to your friends that all the good ones are taken Mr. or Mrs. Right will not miraculously appear on your front doorstep.

If you’re looking for love you have to get off the couch, away from your computer, and create your own luck. Stop playing the numbers game by exploring the obvious rather than the opportune. If you are still searching for the loving arms of someone established, independent, mature, and like-minded maybe it’s because you are looking for love in all the wrong places!


Rather than collecting furry friends and turning into the neighborhood cat lady why not volunteer at your local animal shelter? Don’t fancy pets but love the arts? Consider donating your time at a museum or art gallery. Giving your time, doing what you love, surrounded by people who share your interests will not only make you feel good but better your chances of finding someone with similar pursuits.

Charity Fundraisers

Grab a friend, dress-up in you finest, eat scrumptious tid-bits and meet some fabulous people. Charitable balls, parties, and fundraisers are fantastic ways to get out of the house and meet people outside of your everyday circle. Worst case scenario: You had a great time and supported a worthy cause. Best case scenario: You meet a good hearted companion and possible relationship material. Can’t afford the price of admission? Try offering your services by facilitating the event!

Special Interest Clubs

Photography clubs, hiking groups, culinary classes or a foreign language courses are not only incredible opportunities to cultivate your hobby or stress detox with some “me” time; it can improve your likelihood of making a love connection.


If you live anywhere near a metropolitan area, chances are there a festivals featuring stellar local talent, attracting people from miles around! Whether it’s jazz, beer, wine, art or cherry blossoms…festivals can be your ticket to adventure, new experiences, and delicious singles!

Know that you’re not alone; anyone who has been single for more than a year has experienced dating fatigue once or twice. Even though there is nothing wrong with being single and single doesn’t always mean lonely. There is a point when hook-ups and hang-outs become empty experiences leaving most craving companionship or connectedness with another person. Truth is extraordinary single men and women are everywhere and finding love may turn out to be as simple as getting out of the house and away from the rut of your daily routine.

Want to find the one for you? My advice…stop looking for love in all the wrong places!

Marrie Lobel

Marrie Lobel is a California based freelance dating, sex and relationship writer, Geekalicious creator of and Co-Host of Mr. n Mrs. Romance Podcast. By combining wit, wisdom, and a splash of audacity she takes pride in shattering outdated perceptions about women, stimulating open conversations, and igniting relationships between the sexes.Be sure to Follow @DirtyInPublic on Twitter and Like her on Facebook.

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