Do you fear rejection? Do you worry about getting hurt? Are you scared to get your heart stomped on?
Maybe you’re thinking, “If I am constantly worried and afraid of these things, where can love slide in? Where does love fit? How can love squeeze by?
This is a very human tendency and there are some things we can do to ease this kind of constant worry. Let me explain.
The good news is that fear is a protection mechanism of our brains. Our brains will try everything in their power to keep us safe. Love is risky. Love is daring. Love does take courage. Love can bring up all these emotions: fear, worry, hurt, doubt. While this is normal, there are ways to prevent these feelings. Yes!
3 TIPS for NOT WORRYING about Rejection, Hurt, or Doubt!
#1: Give it everything you have.
Most of the time, if people are holding back in a relationship, it is a surefire recipe for disaster. Quit trying to play with one foot out the door. If you give the situation all of your effort, time and attention, there is no need to worry or regret because you are fully aligned with you. Play full out and give it 100%.
#2: To get love, you have to GIVE love.
A man I was dating years ago told me this. At first it stung, but now I get it. I was waiting until someone gave me love instead of giving love to someone. It’s so much more fun, and you do not have to be a victim. How about you? Are you holding your love in, to see if he’ll love you first? Try being your open, loving self and see what happens. Give love!
#3: If you are scared or worried, communicate it in order to release it.
Usually, once I acknowledge and express the fear it subsides naturally and fades away. Don’t just sit on the fear and worry or it will fester. So, yes, you have to be the ‘V’ word. V.U.L.N.E.R.A.B.L.E.
If you can’t be vulnerable and open with someone, a long-term relationship will not work out anyway. Is it a test? No, but it is a good way to tell if this person could be a great future partner. Right?
At the same time as you try these tips, be safe about your dating habits. Trust yourself enough to know if someone really is a potential partner. Listen to your heart, not your doubts and fears.
Being in a healthy partnership is about expressing yourself, your emotions, and your feelings. Try these simple things and watch your dating life transform. You may even be surprised how the simplest of changes in how we operate can bring love right to us. Wouldn’t that reduce the amount of fear, worry, and doubt we experience! Besides, it makes the whole dating journey more fun and peaceful.