Learning to “let go” is quite possibly the hardest thing we can do when it comes to our relationships.
Letting go requires a universal trust that no matter what, the right thing for you will come to you and never miss you.
Letting go means, what you thought you always wanted could turn out to be not what you wanted at all.
Letting go is extremely scary because it can be perceived as a loss of control. However, holding onto something that is no longer serving you, or is before its time, is not really control at all. It’s a horrible, trapped way to live.
Holding on to a dead relationship is no way to live. It’s not living. You’re meant to feel love and be loved. You are meant to be worshipped. That doesn’t mean the person you are with is a bad person, but staying with someone out of comfort or because you’re afraid you won’t find someone again, stifles your ability to be open to accepting a truly soul changing love.
Letting go does not mean you don’t love the person. Letting go means that you trust that if this love is meant for you, it will return when it’s right. Sometimes we meet people before they’re truly ready. There is a lot of pain that can plague these types of relationships because the love is real and strong. Of course in a perfect world, you would be with them now and you don’t want to see them with someone else. I can tell you this, if this person is meant for you, dating someone else is not going to deter them from being with you in the future.
What if letting go meant that by allowing them time and space, they were able to transform and tap into their own self-love in order to return a stronger and better partner than ever before?
Letting go does not mean either of your feelings have changed. Letting go is the truest form of love. It’s a recognition and resolve that you want what’s best for yourself and that person. If that’s together, it will happen. If it doesn’t, someone truly meant for you will come in.
Letting go creates a space for you to trust your life and what is meant for you. It gives you permission to focus your attention back on yourself and what makes you happy. It helps to minimize the obsessing over trying to figure out what is going to happen next. Endless hours of social media stalking and trying to solve for the ambiguity you face, no longer seems to be as important because you trust, that it doesn’t matter.
Letting go takes courage and takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight. Be gentle with yourself. When we look back over the course of our dating lives and evaluate the times we let go, most of the time, there is this intuitive recognition and understanding of why things didn’t work out with that person.
Of course, for some, there is always that one person that got away. Just remember, they can’t get away if it’s truly meant for you. How brave are you to trust that.