Do you believe that men can’t commit?
Based on your experience with men, do you think that they only things they care about are 1) themselves, and 2) what’s between a woman’s legs?
Well, if you do you certainly aren’t alone. In fact, in most of the conversations I have with women, the majority of time is spent on men and their shortcomings.
As a member of the male species for 4+ decades I’ll be the first to admit that we definitely have our shortcomings. And yes ladies, I will openly admit that some of my Neanderthal brethren are stuck in the Stone Age. And it is these caveman that are ruining it for the rest of the emotionally available men who have no problem with commitment.
I am not afraid to admit that I am happily married and I have no problem with being committed (and monogamous) to one woman. And before you say that men like me are extremely rare (which I hear all the time from the women I work with), let me assure you there are lots of guys like me out there.
In fact, as I look around my social circles almost all of the guys I know are in marriages or committed relationships where they have no problem with commitment. And before you think that we live in some remote part of the world, let me tell you that I live right outside of NYC, the largest city in the world.
So, why do some men openly welcome commitment while others run at the mere mention of the word?
Well, my own research has shown me that in order for a man to commit to a woman and back it up with his actions (Note***ladies, just because a man says he loves you and wants to be with you doesn’t mean he’ll do so) there are 2 things that he MUST experience
1) He’s Happier – Men tend to have very short attention spans and even smaller tolerance levels. If a man feels that having you in his life is going to take away his happiness, rather than enhance it, you can bet you’re a** that he’ll be looking for the nearest exit.
However, if you show a man that his life is going to be better with you in it (both in and out of the bedroom) than you’ll see how quick he embraces commitment.
2) His Life is Better – Ladies please understand this. A guy doesn’t care what you think. It makes no difference if you think you’re wonderful together. If he doesn’t believe (and feel) in his gut that his future isn’t going to be better with you in his life there ain’t no way in hell he’s “gonna put a ring on it.”
The Key to getting a guy to commit to you is to get him to think and feel that he’ll be making a huge mistake by letting you get away.
You don’t need me to tell you that men and women are different creatures. But at the end of the day we all want the same thing.
In fact, research has proven that when a child comes into the world it craves just 3 things: Food, Safety and Love.
Unfortunately for some men, due to the social, environmental and religious conditioning they have experienced they grow up with a distorted perception of love and commitment. Deep down we all want love, we all need love. And unless we have it we’ll never really be happy.
If your intention is to find a special guy to share your life with it would serve you well to show him that he’ll be happier and his life will be better with you in it (in and out of the bedroom).
And when the right guy finds you and realizes this on his own, you will see for yourself that for a guy it’s not about committing, it’s about committing to the right woman.
Question: What’s the #1 question you have about men and commitment? Post your comment below.
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