Have you ever been dating a guy where everything was going great? You’re having the time of your life, the chemistry between you is amazing and you often let your emotions get ahead of you and you start fantasizing that this guy might be “the one”.
But then, out of nowhere, things change.
The guy who used to call and text all the time suddenly withdraws and changes his behavior.
And as you wait for his calls and texts you start scratching your head trying to figure out what’s going on.
And you try to cut him some slack. Maybe he’s too busy. Maybe he just needs some space. Maybe he’s been burned by his ex and he needs some more time to open up and trust you.
And you wait….and wait. Hoping that one day he’ll come around and things will change. And you might even convince yourself that those crumbs he occasionally throws you are enough to build a relationship on.
But the longer you stay the more you look for evidence that your gut is wrong.
You ignore the fact that he doesn’t call when he says he will. You ignore the fact that when he actually does call, he comes up with an excuse as to why he was too busy (note***isn’t this the same guy who had no problem calling and texting you all the time when you first started going out?)
And sooner or later you come to realize that this guy is just like all of the other “boys” out there. He’s really not that into you. He only calls when it’s convenient or it’s in his best interest. He’s certainly not looking for a relationship. A fact, that is backed up by his actions.
So, why can’t he just man up and tell you the truth?
Sounds so simple doesn’t it? And in fact, if all men and women learned to tell the truth, the whole dating game would become much easier and much more enjoyable.
Unfortunately you cannot make another human being be honest with you. No matter how much you say you want the truth, a guy is going to tell you what he wants you to know. And he usually tells you things that are in his best interest.
But there are 3 things you can do to recognize a guy who is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you:
1) Observe his actions – If a guy is interested in you, he will show you by his CONSISTENT actions. And this is where many women struggle. A guy will drop the ball consistently, but as long as he throws a woman a lil crumb, she’s going to take it and let him get away with his juvenile and immature behavior
2) He Doesn’t Keep His Agreements – Look, life gets busy and things often come up. But a guy who is interested in pursuing a relationship with you will do what he can to keep his agreements with you and when circumstances come up which make it impossible to do so, he will go out of his way to make it up to you.
3) He Makes Excuses – a telltale sign that a guy isn’t interested in a relationship is when he makes excuses for why he’s not calling or spending time with you. I find it ironic that the guys who call and text all the time before the first date suddenly have busy and hectic lives after you first meet.
The truth is we live in a world where we can communicate to anyone at anytime if we wanted to. No matter how busy a man is he can find the time (if he wanted to) to give you a quick call, e-mail or text to let you know that he is thinking about you and wants you in his life.
The bottom-line ladies is, if he can find the time to pee and take a dump, then he can find the time to reach out to you.
Several years ago there was a movie called. “He’s Just Not That Into you”. Well, the sad truth is if a guy is not making the time to call or see you, if he’s not keeping his agreements with you and he’s making excuses as to why he won’t make the time to be with you, then he is not the type of man who is deserving of you and your love.
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