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Even the smartest women out there can make massive dating mistakes.

These 5 are bound to keep women over 50 frustrated about meeting quality men:

Mistake #1: Losing Your Spark

One of the scariest things about dating, especially after 50, is having to worry about how members of the opposite sex will perceive you, especially when you’re comparing yourself to the person you were when you were 20.  Thankfully, you aren’t going to be dating a 20-year-old man.  It’s more likely you’ll be dating someone closer to your age who, like you, is worried he may not measure up.

One of the greatest gifts you as a single, mature woman can give yourself is to find passion in your life again.  Whether it’s a new hobby, you’re grandchildren or your home or job, finding your passion will absolutely light you up.  And it’s your excitement and your joy about life that makes you the most appealing to the men you want to meet.

Mistake #2: Dating an Alpha Male When You Are an Alpha Female

The Alpha in a relationship wants to be respected and the Beta wants to be cherished.  There can be only one of each in your relationship.  Why? Imagine two Alphas living together.  This would create a competitive game about who is in charge that no one could win.

And two Betas? No one is taking charge, so nothing gets done.  Your job is figuring out who you are Once you do, you’ll be able to determine who the best man will be for you.

Mistake #3: Dating The Same Type of Man Over and Over Again

You probably have a certain type of man you like dating.  And you date him not because he’s the right man for you but because this “his type” probably feels the most comfortable and safe for you to be with.

Take a look at all the men you’ve dated and been in relationships with… along with why you were attracted to him and why the two of you broke up. Doing this little exercise will help you find the clues for who is and isn’t your best type when it comes to finding the right man to share your life with.

Mistake #4: Choosing a Man Based on a List of Qualities

It’s likely you have this imaginary list in your head of what a man must have to be the right one for you You may be looking for qualities like body types, levels of fitness, specific jobs and salary requirements, just to name a few.

Yet a man may have every quality on your list and still be wrong for you. What you really want is to get a clear vision of how you want to feel around the man you want in your life.  He may be the greatest thing since sliced bread but if you don’t feel good around him, you don’t belong in a relationship with him.

Mistake #5: Not Having a Plan in Place for Meeting ‘The One’

Now that you have a better idea of who you want to share your life with, you’ll want to have a plan in place for how you’re going to meet that person. Do you want to meet him in the real world? If so, you need to figure out where over 50’s singles congregate in your area, whether it’s classes, meet-ups, dog parks or a local bar.

Online dating is another option and there are plenty of sites to explore that cater to people over 50.  Almost every site allows you to browse profiles for free.  This will give you an idea of who is on each site.

Also, it’s a good idea to learn how to flirt with men both online and in the real world so that you now how to attract him once you see a man you are interested in getting to know.

Lisa Copeland

Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who makes dating over 50 fun and easy. Learn more about Lisa at She is a speaker, blogger for the Huffington Post, and author of the new bestselling dating book, The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50: 7 Steps To Attracting Quality Men.

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  • Jacob Nov 23, 2015 at 7:33 pm

    HI most women over 50 they don’t know how to put on make up .They put on to much of it .Women wear those flowery dresses. I hate those dresses.Women also need to listen to them self laugh.Some of them are so loud,some snoret.And the others open their mouths so wide you see the inside of their mouth.YUK.I am saying that men are perfect.I’t about 75/25.And can’t a woman aprouch a man. You know it is just as hard for a man to aprouch a woman as it is for a woman to aprouch a man.The other thing is we both want basekly the same thing so why do we have to play games.Like some of these dating sites the women are mostly either half naked or fully naked.So if you write back saying goroues they look they think Your a pig.So as a man what should I say or do.You tell me.Thank You PS I feel petter now that I got this off my chest GAIN I FEEL GOOD

  • Law Jan 2, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    They live in Alaska, all of these elusive creatures. Behind every tree is “the one” just no trees in Alaska.

  • Nancy Apr 11, 2014 at 7:17 am

    Its so difficult to meet someone! I’ve met plenty of men, but none seem to be the “right one”, I basically date from online dating sites, and men there seem to be so scared to step up to the plate and make a connection via email. And the ones that do, are not ones that I find attractive at all, we gals are visual creatures just like men, I’m sure that guys that do contact me must be finding me attractive otherwise they wouldn’t write?

  • Sasha Mar 8, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    you’re grandchildren? this “his type”? you now how?

  • Sal Mar 7, 2014 at 12:42 pm

    I never make these mistakes and I still haven’t found the right man


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