Are you are tired of being single? Are you attracting the wrong men or wasting time on bad dates?
Often, part of the problem that women encounter when trying to attract love is that they’re not 100% clear about who it is that they want to attract.
The first step in finding that great partner is to KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
And I’m not talking about how you want a man who is good-looking, tall, funny and successful. We all want that. That’s a given.
You are not going to magically bump into your dream man and fall in love right on the spot. That’s a fairy tale. And if you believe in that fairy tale, you need to stop now. Seriously.
This fairytale is preventing you from getting the quality man that you want and desire.
I know this might sound practical and boring, but the very same actions that you need to take to attract a quality man are the actions you need to take to attract a job you want.
If you want a new job, you are not going to send some generic resumé to every company in town, right?
No, you are going to send a specific resumé, regarding a specific job, to specific companies. Why? Because you know what job you want and this will increase your chances of getting this job. The same principle goes for getting the man that you want.
So get out your journal, and let’s get your ideas out on paper.
I want you to ask your self:
What hobbies/interests does your dream man have?
What’s his personal income? Level of education? Religion?
These are just the basics. Now we are going to go a little deeper.
Let’s look at personal characteristics.
Is it important that your ideal man be on time? Helpful? Adventurous? Romantic? Genuine? List the characteristics that are important to you.
How would your ideal man’s friends describe him?
What are your interests and which ones would you want to share with your partner?
What things is he great at?
In what ways does he inspire you?
In what ways can you see yourself in his life?
What kind of relationship is HE looking for?
What is his capacity for resolving conflicts, emotional intimacy, making compromises, and physical closeness?
This is the level that you need to be thinking about if you are SERIOUSLY looking for a long-term, committed relationship that leads to marriage. And here’s why.
If you are not clear about who it is you are looking for, then you will not be able to distinguish him when he shows up into your life.
Sometimes, when you are single and perhaps lonely, you just want to find someone to be in relationship with and fill that void. But sometimes in that single and lonely place you don’t put enough time into thinking about the kind of relationship you would really need in your future to be truly happy.
You have a tendency to get caught up in chemistry, attraction, and the bliss of an initial romance. You can save yourself a whole lot of heartache and time by discovering WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.
And just a quick warning, you’re not going to find love by checking off boxes and finding the man who meets them all. In the end, it does boil down to just 3-4 must haves that really matter to you. And then keep those 3-4 must haves in mind when you are choosing who to continue dating. If a man does not align with your must haves, you need to let him go.
Take the time to look for what really matters in the long run. You deserve real lasting love, but it will take some thought on your part.