With all the parties, events and social situations you’ll find yourself in this season, one of the biggest challenges is how to be charming and engaging.
Use these 5 secrets to be your most naturally engaging, highest value self in minutes.
There’s one thing you must do first if you want this to work.
Throw out the tips, tricks, lists and talking points.
I’m not a fan of any of this stuff.
I have not read all the dating, relationship and self-help books on the market. I have not scoured the earth for every solution known to woman.
This leads to confusion, overwhelm and inaction.
I suggest you do the opposite.
Get Real and Authentic.
This is powerful beyond measure. It has dozens of advantages. Here are four:
- It’s Simple. You don’t have to remember or rehearse anything.
- It’s Refreshing. In a world where most people are presenting a facade, your authenticity and substance stand out. People will sense your depth and substance. Real never goes out of style.
- It’s Inspiring. When you share your authentic self, it inspires others to do the same. This leads to number 3…
- It Creates Genuine Connection. People connect deeply to those who resonates with them. Not those who try to please. When you’re authentic, you’re more likely to create that deep connection.
Before I share the five secrets, actually you can use them as mantras.
Step One: Start by picking one to focus on.
Let it inspire you to cultivate that part of your character by using it for one a day, week or month.
It’s up to you. You’re the queen of your domain ;- )
Step Two: Move to the next, and the next.
The more you use them, the more your character and substance will blossom, deepen and expand over time.
Do this and you will stand out.
Not because you’re better than other women (as we’re all equally valuable), but because few women dedicate time to this.
Most focus on the mainstream tricks and fluff. This may work temporarily, but the wisdom I’m sharing is eternal.
Ready to cultivate your depth of character and substance as a high value woman?
“I Am a Multi-Faceted Woman Who Learns Something New Each Day.”
Look for new things to learn. Could it be a new word in your language—or a foreign language. Perhaps a new joke. Maybe you read an article on a famous historic woman.
It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it sparks your interest.
“I Am a Woman of Variety Who Invites Change in All Areas of Her life.”
You can have a lot of fun with this! I challenge myself to do something different every day. Whether that’s driving a new route, trying a new coffee shop or wearing a new scent. Whenever I see myself falling into a pattern, I break it.
This increases your mystique and intrigue as a woman.
“I Know What I Desire and Go After It Passionately.”
Often, the times we feel dull or stuck are when we don’t have goals. Goals fire you up, give you something to live for and go after.
This makes you an inspiring woman to be around.
“I Am a Charming Woman Who Makes Others Feel Good.”
This is one of the greatest seduction and charm secrets of all times. The world’s most charismatic and successful people are masters at this.
If you’re shy, just start by asking them questions about what they’re passionate about. Listen intently. Behave as though they’re the only person on the planet at the moment.
“I Am a Curious Woman Who Loves Getting to Know People.”
Don’t stop at the first question. Be curious. Go deeper. Not in a creepy ’20 questions’ way, but ask clarifying questions that uncover deeper layers of what they’ve shared.
Getting to know someone is like digging for gold. The first question only scratches the surface.
As you build your character and substance as a woman, your confidence grows.
This is true for all women. No matter how accomplished or successful.
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With love and in service,
P.S. Are you a smart, successful women who want’s to have it all? Visit my bio for access to a free audio: “4 Ways to Instantly Show High Value.”