By definition, a Boy is “a male child from birth to adulthood”, yet so many women out there would say that they’ve dated men who were well into their 30s, 40s, even 50s that were, well, still really boys.
The key to getting a better understanding if the person sitting across from you is a “man” or a “boy” starts with knowing what to look for and then acting on that knowledge quickly and definitely.
So how do you tell if you are dating a “man” or just another “boy”? Here are the top 5 ways to tell if you are dating a man or a boy.
He Is Comfortable in His Own Skin
To me and most women, there is nothing more attractive than a secure, confident man. Someone who knows who they are and where they are going in life. At the same time, this confidence never moves too close to cockiness, nor does it take itself too seriously.
A real “man”, unlike his “boy” counterpart, also doesn’t do things like constantly compare himself to others, or you to others either. His personality keeps himself from being that jealous type who is afraid to allow you to live the life you need to make you happy.
He Doesn’t Need You to Change for Him
Have you ever said the following about someone you are dating, “He has A, B, C, D, but if he just had E he would be perfect”?
Of course you have. We all have. The problem is far too many women enter into and/or stay in relationships with partners who don’t give them everything they need to make them happy.
In my Conscious Dating Program, I call these “Non-Negotiables” aka Deal-breakers. When you are in a relationship with a “boy” it means he has some growing up to do in one or more aspects of his life that you want to change and that rarely, if ever, translates into the partner you both want and deserve.
He Is Impressive, and Has Realistic Goals
It’s always great to be with someone who has dreams and goals in their life. The problem for some comes when those dreams and goals are not realistic and lack and likelihood of achievement. For example, I once dated a guy who dreamt of owning his own business.
That in of itself was not such a horrible goal, but the fact that he had a poor work ethic, moved from job to job, and was not very good with money, to me, made this completely unlikely to ever happen. And based on that information, I knew he was never going to be the “man” for me. A real man’s actions will match his words.
He Takes Ownership and Accountability for His Mistakes
One thing I love about my husband (who I am happy to say is a man by the way), is that he takes ownership of his mistakes. This is so important for those who strive to be in the “man” category.
Those who don’t take accountability for their actions tend to rarely learn from their mistakes because, well, they didn’t think they did anything wrong so what is there to learn from? When you are in a committed relationship, mistakes are often made, and the goal is to find a “man” who will be able to see them, and hopefully learn from them, so the relationship can flourish.
He Makes You a Better Version of Yourself
I so wish more women out there took this last one into account when they date a guy. When you are in a relationship and you constantly find yourself confused or off-balanced about how to act or what to say in seemingly normal situations then this is a red flag of the reddest color.
Being your best self is not only the key to healthy relationships, but also to being happy in life in general. The bottom line is “men” bring out the best in their lady, while “boys” never do.
If you’d like some help clarifying the difference between the two, I invite you to schedule a free Relationship Readiness Review with me by visiting my website in my bio below. And let’s see how I can help.
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