The infamous man-child is everywhere in pop culture: from bumbling husbands on prime time sitcoms who sack out on the couch while their harried wives run the household to advertisements for beer, grills and hot dogs catering directly to this deplorable demographic.
As much of a bad rap is the infamous “man-child” species gets in pop culture, dating one can be deceivingly fun at first. Many women are initially attracted to their laid back, carefree outlook on life and, especially for older woman getting back into the dating game, having one as a counterpart may awaken their inner-20 something.
But the truth is, a man whose maturity hasn’t caught up with his age simply is not suitable for a stable, healthy and lasting relationship. To help you figure out if your current fella fits into this category, here are five signs you’re dating a member of this sleazy species.
1. He Scoffs at Your Success
The typical man-child will be intimidated by your success and his insecurities will manifest themselves in a number of forms. He’ll likely start by inciting arguments related to the amount of time you spend at work or a disdain for your co-workers. If that doesn’t work, he’ll progress to putting you down in front of his friends or yours, flirting with other girls or purposely not getting back to you in a timely manner. While these juvenile tactics may be maddening at the time, just remember that his ultimate goal is to undermine your confidence and make you the insecure one even though he’s the one struggling to find himself. Rise above it and move on.
2. He Won’t Admit He’s Wrong
In a similar immature manner, the man-child will never admit he’s wrong. This also plays into his insecurities in the face of your success and confidence, and somehow asserts his feeling of male dominance. Especially when arguing, this stubborn characteristic will only fuel the argument further but when you find yourself getting fired up, remember that a real man isn’t afraid to admit he’s wrong and will own up to his mistakes when appropriate.
3. He Fights Like a Child
Sensing a child-like theme here yet? Your man-child mate will do anything to get your attention by engaging in arguments like a toddler would. If you’re not giving him enough attention, he’ll resort to pouting, sulking, silent treatment and the like, until he gets his way. Once you give him the attention he’s been awaiting, he’ll take full advantage by throwing a temper tantrum. Don’t deal with a child until you actually have one – it’s time to cut the cord.
4. His Goals Don’t Align With His Reality
Does your man often reference the things he’ll buy and do when he’s rich and famous? Does he emulate the characteristics of those more successful than him? Man-children often have grand plans in their fantasies while their realities have them in dead-end careers that require zero passion. Arrogance and ego are unattractive no matter what, but even more so when the guy doesn’t have the cred to back it up. A real man will work hard at something he loves and be humble about it. If he hits it big, even better!
5. He Spends His Free Time on the Couch
An unattractive trait (and most likely the cause of number 4) is the man-child’s tendency to spend most of his free time on the couch or engaging in other less productive activities. Rather than pursuing a hobby, or better yet, a career, your man-child consistently chooses video games, sleeping, and drinking with friends over all else. Hobbies and passions not only make a man more three-dimensional person, but illustrates their outlook on life in general. You deserve someone with a passion for life, and you!