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A few weeks ago, I went to Shakespeare in the Park in Central Park to see King Lear.

I didn’t know that in this rendition, King Lear was played by John Lithgow, who was the main character on that old TV show 3rd Rock from the Sun. He was absolutely amazing. He is 68 years old and plays a man that is crazy and extremely emotional and angry. Not an easy role to play!

It was so inspiring to watch these actors play some really difficult roles under really difficult circumstances, out in the open air (planes were flying by), LIVE on stage in front of an entire audience.

There are no do overs, or edits. What you give to the stage and the audience is what you leave out there. Yet every night they get on stage and give it their all, for the audience, their fellow actors, and in honor of the role they are playing. It takes guts.

So here’s my point…

Happy Woman With Confidence Attracting MenWhen was the last time you have done something that was that bold in your life?

Something outside of your daily routine that scared you? That risked rejection?

You see, as an actor you are rejected over and over and over again in pursuit of your dream and passion.

When it comes to LOVE, it is easy to experience rejection and want to crawl back into your shell.

It takes courage to come back out and try again at love, in trusting men, and say, “I know the man I am meant to be with exists”. 

Even right now in this moment, putting yourself out there probably feels a little scary, right?

So, I want to challenge you to do something bold.

If you see someone you think is cute at a coffee shop, tell them.

Smile at a man across the room signaling your interest.

Strike up a conversation with a man you like.

Note With Call Me to Attract MenWrite your number on the back of a napkin and give it to a man you would like to ask you out.

Text a guy asking him if he would like to take you out on a date.

Tell a man that isn’t treating you right, that you deserved to be treated better, and that you are moving on.

In the mirror, out loud, say to yourself “I love myself” (I know this seems simple – it isn’t).

These are activities that make us feel weird and uncomfortable because it is outside of our comfort zone. It is BOLD.

But the more you give yourself permission to make a fool out of yourself or take a small risk, the easier it gets to encounter rejection, and know that you can keep going.

This week, I’m taking my own advice and I’m going to tell a friend how I would like a better relationship with her and talk through why we haven’t been connecting lately. This is scary for me.

But when there is fear, that’s when you know you are on to something profound.

On the other side of that scary feeling is a lot of power and confidence.

So tell me  in the comments below, what action you are going to take?

I’m right there with you!

Kavita J. Patel

Kavita J. Patel is a Love Coach (some call her a Love Intuitive) who combines her no-BS style with spiritual teachings to help single women find the love of their life and have fun doing it instead of the anxiety filled process that most women experience while dating. She gets to the root of what creates the sabotaging love patterns, and has helped hundreds of women easily release those patterns so they can attract in man they have been waiting for. She has been featured in Woman’s Health Magazine, FoxNews, CBS, Woman’s Day, Huffington Post and more. Check out Kavita’s free 3-part video series, Soul Level Love, where she reveals the truth about what keeps smart, ambitious women single or in relationships that don’t work for them.

What Do You Think?

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  • Kris Sep 26, 2014 at 7:54 pm

    When he returns from overseas I’m going to tell him that I no longer accept the shabby way he treats me, and that I am moving on. And I will do it kindly, compassionately, and I WILL do it!

  • Charlotte Sep 26, 2014 at 2:04 pm

    I have started dancing again as a single after 40 yrs. it was very hard at first for me to approach a man and ask him to dance. But the more I have done it the easier it becomes. I have made 2 connections with men who I have been seeing now for a few months all because I was bold enough to ask them to dance. Life is good!

  • Leia Sep 26, 2014 at 2:48 am

    There was a time back there when I wouldn’t have been able to do something like you’re suggesting. I guess I was too wrapped up in thoughts about rejection and things like that. Now I feel stronger – if I was rejected by a man I thought was cute and interesting, I most likely would still feel bad about it, but I think I would come out the other side a lot more quickly and easily than I would have back then. So maybe it’s a good thing to take into account how strong you are when you attempt something like this. If you are at a low point, it may be better to focus on strengthening yourself with ideas and actions until you feel ready. Good luck to everyone who feels like taking a risk – may the gods be with you.

  • Taylor Sep 23, 2014 at 5:42 pm

    In the past if I’ve told a guy he’s cute or given them my number I’ve never received a call back. I’ve learned that many men find this bold & aggressive and they don’t like this. They like to be the one to show the initial interest to take the step towards asking for a woman’s number.
    It seems when woman do this & a man goes for it, he’s generally the weak man in the relationship and let’s the woman be in charge. I don’t want that type of man.

  • Estella Sep 22, 2014 at 8:38 pm

    Going to job interviews. In a sense, its like going to an endless list of blind dates. You do your best preparation, they try to show their best side.. but in the end they may reject you for some reason you don’t get told. That is excruciating and diminishing, because how many times you can say to yourself “its about them, not necessarily about me ” ?. It has become so paralyzing that i don’t even want to keep doing it and its getting worse each time again.


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