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If you want to attract your soulmate – or deepen the intimacy with the person you’re with now – uncovering your unique gifts and USING them in service to your life’s purpose is one of the best things you can do to transform your love life forever.

This is easily the #1 thing I did to shift my vibe, attract my wonderful husband, and allow my love life to become everything I ever dreamed of!

If you have a certain gift but you don’t use it, you can go through what feels like “chasing your tail.” You’ll feel like you can’t get out of your own way, or can’t seem to “get started.” There’s a lot of restriction and frustration in that phase.

Love Life Tips and Find the Perfect Love for YouWhen you’re not embracing your gifts, you’ll often feel lost, inadequate or “left in the dust.” You may even start to reduce the expression of your gifts and get “smaller” within yourself, which leads to an inaccurate self-image and becomes a massive Intimacy Barrier.

We can tend to think that if we deny or make “small” a part of ourselves or don’t acknowledge our gifts, then somehow we’re going to get the love, acceptance or approval that we desire – and this is often operating at a deep, unconscious level.

The truth is, when we embrace all of who we are – including the gifts that we may be afraid of – THAT’S when we start to attract everything we want in life AND in love!

This is why uncovering your gifts and committing to your life’s purpose has EVERYTHING to do with your love life!

If you’re not acknowledging or using your unique gifts, chances are you’ve rarely been “mirrored” in your life. We can’t be seen and recognized by others for things that we’re not able to recognize in ourselves.

If you’re oblivious to your gifts or you’re not using them out there in the world, people aren’t going to “mirror” them back to you.

What happens when people aren’t being “mirrored” is they often forget that they even HAVE their gifts – and they’ll attract people who don’t really “see” them, or who aren’t willing or able to give them what they want in a relationship.

If you’re in a relationship and you’re not embracing and using your gifts, your partner won’t be able to see your gifts either, and you can begin to feel neglected, unappreciated or misunderstood – and it can start to devolve into one of those lower levels of relationship.

You can also keep yourself very busy in non-intimacy relationship entanglements as a big distraction from your gifts and your OWN life’s purpose. 

The first step to discovering if you have an intimacy barrier because you’re not embracing your gifts is looking at your external life. That will often tell you everything you need to know about your INTERNAL life.

Your external life is a reflection of what’s going on within you and how you feel about YOURSELF on the inside.

Take a look at your life around you – look at what’s being reflected back TO you. All of what’s going on around you on the outside is a mirror for you.

When you uncover or reclaim your unique gifts and begin USING them – this will create a profound shift in your sense of self-esteem and self-love, and attract the right person to you like a magnet!

When you start to see the true depth, power and beauty of who you are, THAT’S what’s going to be “mirrored” back to you from the outer world.

That’s why if you really want to develop true intimacy with yourself and a fantastic partner at a level you’ve never experienced, you can’t hide from your gifts.

When you embrace every part of yourself and begin taking steps towards the life of your dreams, that’s when you’ll attract the perfect “match” for you (or completely transform the relationship you’re in)!

Love, Helena

P.S. – There are very specific things you need to do if you want to attract a high quality man who’s ready to commit – see my bio for access to my FREE “3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want” report and in-depth audio training to get started.

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Helena Hart

As a Certified Life and Relationship Coach with a masters degree in Psychology, a Master Coach Teacher for Rori Raye, and author of “Attract The Man You Want,” Helena Hart helps people all over the world effortlessly attract love into their lives – and she can get results for you quickly!


If you’re ready to inspire the kind of deep attraction and devotion that makes a man fall in love and want to be with you forever, visit You can instantly download your FREE “3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want” report and in-depth audio training!

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