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In last month’s article, I share with you how imperative it is to heal from past relationship patterns in order to clear the way for you to manifest a healthy, lasting love relationship.

By understanding your relationship patterns, where they are rooted in your subconscious mind and healing them, you will find it easier to attract new relationship opportunities that are better suited and matched for you.

Ideal Mate and Finding the Perfect MatchOnce you have the awareness of your own relationship pattern history, you can choose differently. First, however, it is vital that you understand more about yourself so you can attract the ideal partner to you.

Once you have a deeper knowingness of THE MAGNIFICENT YOU, as I like to call it, better quality romantic opportunities will present him or herself to you. New patterns, based in healthy belief systems arise from going through this process.

Because our subconscious mind controls much of what shows up in our lives, and how we show up in our own life, this is where the work must be done. As I’ve stated before, you will know what your subconscious belief systems are by what is showing up and not showing up in your life. I would venture to say that since you are reading this right now, and we are discussing the topic of love relationships, there are belief systems in your psyche that are not matching what you consciously desire.

Could it be that you are not realizing your own self-worth because of past experiences and rejections?

Did you have a not-s0-loving and functional upbringing that could have set negative identity stories in your subconscious mind?

This part of the process is essential to reveal how you feel about yourself! Look over your life and discover where your beliefs about your worthiness began.

We have all heard the adage, “you must love yourself first”, and I tend to agree, particularly, when we are discussing intimate relationships. In this first article in this series, I shared with you the fact that we are akin to magnets to our life and love experience. You now know that deeply embedded wounds show up in the form of relationship patterns, thus, repeating cycles over and over again in the area of love. This will continue, unless and until you commit to this healing work.

Knowing who you really are is the opening of your mind and heart to the reality that you are a magnificent creation that is here to express, experience and engage in life.

Your true identity is not your past. It is not tied to your childhood. It is not your broken relationship stories. Your true identity is that you are a human being made manifest to create miracles in your own life. You have the ability to deliberately create your love experience.

Once you understand how powerful YOU are as a human being, as a great manifestation that can deliberately create what you want to experience, the world opens up for you! You are uniquely fashioned with gifts and talents, with a personality that makes up YOU. No one else on Earth has the same composition. No one. Embrace the fact that you are a miracle walking on this Earth and love the life you have every day. Gratitude for waking up alive is a good start to magnetizing new and better experiences.

Begin Expressing Self-love Today With These Ideas:

  • Have compassion for yourself for all you have endured
  • Look back over your life with appreciation for how far you’ve come
  • Reflect on the talents and natural gifts that make up YOU
  • Set boundaries in areas that keep you suffering
  • Spend more time on activities that bring you joy
  • Remember moments that you felt amazing to be exactly who you are
  • Spend time with those that see the real you and appreciate your time and efforts
  • Recognize that the “right” person will appreciate you, make time for you, and see the “real” you
  • Be confident in knowing what you deserve in love

You can become a great magnet to a great love story! Learn how to become a powerful, deliberate creator in my next article in this series. Until then, be a great love to yourself!


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Theresa Vigarino

Theresa helps others heal from their past relationship patterns and teaches how they can deliberately create their new love story.

CLICK HERE for her free ebook to overcome heartache and life hurdles!

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