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This article is written for women only, for women who would like to get married and have a happy marriage. If this is you, please continue to read this article and enjoy.

Turn Off in Dating a Man…Men and women are different, very different in John Gray’s book he refers to Men being from Mars and Women being from Venus, how true. Men think differently and act differently and the purpose is that they fit together perfectly with us women.

Imagine if the guys were overly emotional and wanted to cry every time something happened that upset them, I am fairly sure we would think they were ‘wimps’ and wouldn’t be very attracted to them.

Another way men are different is that they are problem solvers, if you have a problem they don’t want to nurture you with “There, there sweetie, are you ok?” they want the facts and they think about a way to solve your problem, emotion doesn’t come into it.

A major off to a guy is – NEGATIVITY.

When a woman is complaining about something, he goes into problem solving mode and it becomes like hard work to him. Another thing is that men like to please us women, they like to make us happy. When a man is making the woman in his life happy it makes him feel more masculine, if he sees her as his dream girl. If he sees her as his casual girl he won’t put in the effort required to make her happy.

I have many clients come to me and say that the guys don’t ask them for a second date or disappear after a few dates. One of the reasons for this is if they are negative on a date. They might start complaining about their ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, an issue at work or how bad the guys are that they are meeting online. The list could go on.

When men have stress at work the last thing they need is more stress and more work, when you start complaining and being negative it is “operation, get me out of here.”

Men want dating to be pleasant and enjoyable and no stress.

I introduced some friends together recently, they exchanged numbers and photo’s, both liked the look of each other. After a couple of phone calls the guy never called her back. I asked him what happened and his very words were “She was too negative” after giving this feedback my female friend was quite ‘gobsmacked’ and had no idea she was being negative.

Sometimes we can get  into a bad habit of looking at the glass as half empty rather than half full. Look around outside at the wonder of the earth we love on to remind ourselves to look at the positive in everything. Next time you catch yourself saying something negative, turn that thought around, what’s the opposite and look for the positive.

Think of yourself like a summer breeze on a hot day after he has been working out in the sun. You breeze in, what a lovely feeling and breeze out and he thinks to himself it would be great if that breeze came back.

Give him a reason to want to keep dating you and think of you as his future wife.

Lyn Paul

Learn from a happily married Dating Coach the secrets of Dating Success for women, Lyn Paul can show you how to find and keep your Mr Right.

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What Do You Think?

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  • Wynterr Apr 20, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    It’s true tho…who really wants to listen to complaining, blaming, poor me, negativity..eventually all that will manifest physically in the body n push people away

  • DragonStar1 Apr 20, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    There are so many things wrong with this article, I wouldn’t even know where to begin. Feels like a throw back to the 40’s. UGH!! Who needs it!?

  • swiftchase Apr 20, 2016 at 6:27 am

    i need an advice, me and my bf are in a long distance relationship for 2 mons. , i think he’s ignoring right now bec maybe sometimes I’ve been dramatic, so what should I do to get his attention back

  • Karen Apr 20, 2016 at 6:04 am

    Written by a man, for men. Justifying weaknesses and personality defects.

    • Karen   Karen Apr 20, 2016 at 6:12 am

      Omg, a woman wrote this??????

  • FMM Apr 20, 2016 at 5:45 am

    One sided article, as men can also be negative. True, it’s good men and women are different – but unfair to say women cry through crises – they may also be the the problem solver, while men may waste just as much time raging or fighting as women might spend crying. Women also like fun dates, not listening to a litany of complaint! – where do you get your ideas!

  • Sunshine Apr 11, 2016 at 4:25 am

    I need some advice..55 a women who has had great sex with a fwb guy for the 5 years I have been separated. My fwb man is a great lover with a nice package..If you know what I mean. I date others and am looking for a relationship. Problem is when I find a man that I like..When we get to the sex part he is very small and can’t perform well enough to have intercourse. And thinks that oral is all that is required?
    I enjoy oral I enjoy incourse more . I feel like if I want to be in a relationship that I have to give up having a satisfying sex life. Is this a problem other women are having ? Or is it just me?
    How do I give up my fwb guy for cuddling ?


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