This article is written for women only, for women who would like to get married and have a happy marriage. If this is you, please continue to read this article and enjoy.
Men and women are different, very different in John Gray’s book he refers to Men being from Mars and Women being from Venus, how true. Men think differently and act differently and the purpose is that they fit together perfectly with us women.
Imagine if the guys were overly emotional and wanted to cry every time something happened that upset them, I am fairly sure we would think they were ‘wimps’ and wouldn’t be very attracted to them.
Another way men are different is that they are problem solvers, if you have a problem they don’t want to nurture you with “There, there sweetie, are you ok?” they want the facts and they think about a way to solve your problem, emotion doesn’t come into it.
A major off to a guy is – NEGATIVITY.
When a woman is complaining about something, he goes into problem solving mode and it becomes like hard work to him. Another thing is that men like to please us women, they like to make us happy. When a man is making the woman in his life happy it makes him feel more masculine, if he sees her as his dream girl. If he sees her as his casual girl he won’t put in the effort required to make her happy.
I have many clients come to me and say that the guys don’t ask them for a second date or disappear after a few dates. One of the reasons for this is if they are negative on a date. They might start complaining about their ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, an issue at work or how bad the guys are that they are meeting online. The list could go on.
When men have stress at work the last thing they need is more stress and more work, when you start complaining and being negative it is “operation, get me out of here.”
Men want dating to be pleasant and enjoyable and no stress.
I introduced some friends together recently, they exchanged numbers and photo’s, both liked the look of each other. After a couple of phone calls the guy never called her back. I asked him what happened and his very words were “She was too negative” after giving this feedback my female friend was quite ‘gobsmacked’ and had no idea she was being negative.
Sometimes we can get into a bad habit of looking at the glass as half empty rather than half full. Look around outside at the wonder of the earth we love on to remind ourselves to look at the positive in everything. Next time you catch yourself saying something negative, turn that thought around, what’s the opposite and look for the positive.
Think of yourself like a summer breeze on a hot day after he has been working out in the sun. You breeze in, what a lovely feeling and breeze out and he thinks to himself it would be great if that breeze came back.