Have you ever been on a date, at a conference, wedding or social event, met a guy you found interesting, but went home kicking yourself because…
- Bored him to tears with silence and small talk, or
- Tipped your hand so far, you turned him off
Either way, he never asked for your number OR things didn’t last after the first date. Chances are you did (or didn’t do) several of the following TEN things. Next time, you will be prepared to meet ANY man in ANY social situation.
10 Do’s & Don’ts to Make A Fabulous First Impression:
Do Stay Calm
It can be hard to keep a level head and be emotionally reserved when you’re with someone you’re attracted to. However, if you want it to go past the first meeting, that’s exactly what needs to happen. You’re not there to impress him. You’re there to get a feel for and discover him. The next tip is the best way to do it…
Do Seduce Him Intellectually
During conversations, I like to follow the 80/20 rule. This helps introverts (like me) and Chatty Cathys (who overshare) alike. Listen 80 percent of the time, and ask questions and speak 20 percent of the time. Don’t know where to start? Here are “12 Ways To Intellectually Seduce A Successful Man.”
Don’t Talk Marriage or Future Plans
No one wants to be asked about marriage plans on the first date. You don’t even know each other yet. If he asks about your plans, it’s okay to say that you’d like that eventually—if you meet the right person, but don’t dwell on it.
Don’t Volunteer Personal Information
Keep your history and any revealing stories to yourself. Simply reply to the questions he asks. Note: Tend to get chatty about inappropriate things when you drink? Refrain from it or keep it to a glass (or half-glass) so you won’t reveal something you’ll regret.
Do Listen Actively
No one likes talking to someone who seems distracted. That’s plain rude. Look at him when he speaks. Repeat what he says to show you’re listening and fully engaged. If you’re worried about something or facing a challenge (you can’t take your mind off of), be courteous and stay home.
Don’t Talk About Your Ex
I can’t believe how many people do this! Who hasn’t been on dates where the man or woman complained about the ex wife? Big. Turn. Off. Don’t be like them. If he asks about your ex or why your relationship ended, simply reply with a vague (but true) answer. For example, you had your differences or wanted different things…etc.
Don’t Give Advice or Opinions
This is one of the easiest traps to fall into. If he talks about a challenge or situation, simply listen. Only share your opinion if asked. Even then, exercise caution. I typically refrain from giving advice or sharing certain life opinions when I’ve just met someone.
Do Touch Him
Yes, brush his upper arm, touch his shoulder or gently graze his hand one time. If you do it more than that, he’ll think you’re ready for—well, more. Emanate “I’m personable” not “please take me home” (unless that’s what you want).
Don’t Show Too Much Interest in Material Things
I know you worked hard to get where you are. You’re tired of broke men living with their moms or are financially unstable. However, a first conversation is not the time or the place to discuss his income or possessions. In fact, it’s distasteful. You’ll trigger his gold digger radar. Just focus on seeing if you like him—as a man. Besides, it’s only a first meeting.
Don’t Let the Conversation Get Sexual
There’s a line between a little flirting and being outright sexual. Never go there. Especially during the first conversation. Once you do, it’s hard to go back. That’s all he’ll think about. It will be hard to go deeper than that. We’re not naive enough to think a man isn’t having sexual thoughts about us, but your job is to let him get to know you—on the inside.
Set things up to be respected for the woman you are.
Speak and behave with the utmost self-respect—and, if he’s a high quality man, without agenda, he’ll treat you that way.
“Never forget that you only have one opportunity to make a first impression.”
~ Natalie Massenet
With love and in service, Rhonda “First Impressions Stick” Cort P.S. Ready to be a TRULY confident woman who is magnetic to high quality men? Visit my bio and website for complimentary access to “4 Ways to Instantly Show You’re a High Value Woman.” Plus, get access to my NEW series where I spill the beans about what it REALLY takes to “Attract the Right, Affluent, High Quality Men.”