Picture this. The lighting is soft. There are many faces but you can’t help but be drawn to just him. His eyes. Locked with yours. And in that moment you just knew he was the one. And you were his one. In that moment…
That moment on the screen with fifteen other profiles that showed up in your search. There are ads popping up on the screen. And he’s locking eyes with the phone camera that he held up to take his own profile picture.
This can’t really be the way to meet your soulmate.
Well, the initial impression certainly isn’t winning any prizes in the romance department. I agree this seems to be the least ideal way to meet the love of your life. I used to insist, “There’s no way I’m meeting the love of my life online. It just isn’t going to happen that way.” And then, just a few months later I met the love of my life online and it happened exactly that way. Turns out many great couples meet their partners online, too.
So if it isn’t romantic or ideal, why does it work?
If you’re ready, know what you want in a relationship, and are looking to attract a special someone in a very deliberate way, then dating online is the ideal way to meet men for first dates. Here are a few reasons why:
You can learn a lot about him instantly from his profile. Being very clear on what you want in a relationship is so important for attracting the right partner and what’s great about dating online is being able to screen a potential date’s pertinent info before investing more time and energy into the connection.
Is he looking for marriage?
Does he have kids or want kids?
What religion, if any, is he?
Where does he live?
By dating online, you can see if he even has the same goals and basic values before investing your time, emotions and energy.
He can learn a lot about you quickly from your profile, too. Also, without spending time and energy in a relationship, he can know if you’re right for him outside of the fact that he’s basically attracted to you.
For example, when I met my husband online I used the prettiest snapshot I could find and said fun things in my profile and such, but was also completely honest about wanting a serious relationship and children someday.
Heck, I was even honest about being vegan at the time and very spiritual. Yep, that meant I didn’t eat burgers and I’m a little “woo woo.” Do you think that turned some men off? Definitely. Are those men I would want to go out with? No.
The best match for you will be drawn to your desires, your values, and who you truly are.
Let’s face it, it’s where the men are. The chances of meeting a potential soul mate that is available and also seeking love just randomly somewhere is fairly slim, especially after a certain age when many are already partnered. Honestly ask yourself: where do the most single men that are ready for a relationship hang out often?
It seems men are much more keen on online dating than women typically are. And most have admitted to me they even prefer it for various reasons.
I recommend researching different types of sites and apps and choosing the one that has the highest percentage of single men looking for the type of relationship you’re looking for. In my clients’ experiences and mine paid-for sites are FAR superior to freebie sites, which tend to attract the hook-up crowd.
Online dating is a wonderful tool if you are deliberately attracting the love you want.
And though it may not be the most romantic way to first meet someone, I know myself and many clients happily coupled are grateful they gave it a chance. There is plenty of time for romance ahead…
What do you think about online dating? Yay or nay? I’d love to read your comments below!
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