Ladies, we need to talk about your online dating profile photos. The use of photo editing is starting to get out of hand.
I’m not talking about removing red-eye or covering a pimple, I’m talking about using retouching apps to change your eye color, alter the size and shape of your facial features, or slim your face and body. Some of you edit your images so drastically that they no longer resembles you, and then use these photos for your online dating profile. This has got to stop.
I recognize that society puts a lot of expectations on women, and it’s undeniable that the media is partly to blame. Beauty is celebrated, rewarded, and used for profit, but even the most beautiful aren’t beautiful enough – the gorgeous models used in advertising are all photoshopped from head to toe. There is enormous pressure to live up to these unattainable images and it leads many women to believe that they must enhance their photos in order to be desired.
But, you don’t have to edit your photos to be desirable, and you definitely don’t need to do it in order to find a good man.
The photoshopped version of you may get a lot of online compliments or attention, but unless you created your online dating profile strictly for the attention from men with no actual intention of dating anyone, retouching your photos is pointless. If what you really want is to find a meaningful, long term relationship, being dishonest about the way you look will actually do more harm than good.
When you make a connection with someone online and decide to meet, the real you is going to have to show up to that date.
Don’t think for a second that the men you meet won’t notice that you don’t look like the woman in your pictures. They will – they always do. They will feel tricked, and the deceit will ruin any chance of a second date.
Stop wasting your time (and theirs) by pretending to be something you’re not. You are who you are and you look the way you look. If you have to change your appearance to get someone to date you, you shouldn’t be dating them. Regardless of what you look like, there are tons of people who would find you attractive, and be a good match for you. Besides, not everyone is attracted to the same look.
Dita Von Teese once said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” It’s true – you can’t please everyone, and you sure as hell don’t need to. Just be yourself. Because you know what’s always sexy? Confidence.