Great sex is indispensable for a well rounded, complete relationship and there is certainly nothing wrong with having casual sex – if that’s what you want.
However, most (if not all) women desire to be in a loving relationship at some point in their lives. They are not comfortable with being just a guy’s booty call. They want something more substantial. Moreover, many men have a habit of emotionally manipulating women and tricking them into having sex.
So be on the lookout for these 5 telltale signs that he is only using you for sex:
1. He doesn’t invite you anywhere
Forget about being original, he doesn’t even make an attempt to put together even a simple dinner & movie date. He makes excuses whenever you suggest doing something together – unless it is having sex, of course!
You only spend time at his place or yours. He never calls you during the day time and you only see him late in the evenings or at night (when he is in the mood).
2. You haven’t met his friends
OK, it’s understandable that men (and even women) don’t want you to meet their friends and family unless they know for sure that the relationship is serious. However, if you have been seeing him for a while and you still have not been introduced to his friends; then this should raise a red flag in your mind.
When guys meet a girl that they think is awesome, they actually like to proudly show her off to their friends. If he is reluctant to do so, then he doesn’t think that you are awesome (OK, maybe the sex is good but that is about it). You should only date people who think you are awesome, both in and out of bed – it is the LAW!
3. He only calls or texts you when he wants to meet up
He never sends you a casual text or does not inquire about your well being. All his moves seem to have an agenda. Guys are not as talkative on the phone as girls (they are watching TV and cannot talk and watch at the same time – it is too difficult for them!), nor do they like texting as much as girls.
But if a guy loves a girl and cares about her – he will call just ‘to talk’ or at least to invite you to someplace nice (His dirty apartment does NOT qualify as a nice place). He’ll send you funny, witty messages to impress you. He will ask you what you had for lunch and how your day was; his conversation will not linger exclusively around sexual topics. Sure, guys like to talk about sex but it should not be the only thing that you both talk about.
4. He is busy on the weekends – especially evenings
I hate to this ladies, but this COULD very well mean that he has reserved the best time of the week for his A-grade woman. This is someone that he thinks is worth dating.
Are you comfortable being a second choice?
Do you like getting his sloppy seconds?
If not, you need to stop letting guys use you and start learning about becoming an alpha woman.You need to focus on your happiness before you can worry about others.
5. He leaves shortly after the act
You have had a terrific lovemaking session and it would be nice to just cuddle and plan the future together but BOOM – he gives you a customary peck on the cheek and before you know what’s happening, he’s already got into his clothes, mumbled some lame excuse about work and being busy and is out of the house. Worse, he makes you leave right after sex because he is busy and has things to do.
Whatever you do, don’t dump a guy just because he has a high sex drive! Suggest that you do something social like going to a movie, concert or even just taking a walk and chatting. Check out if he willingly accepts. No wonder how busy a man is, he always makes time for the people that are important to him.
Understand that it can be emotionally challenging to leave a guy who does not care about you. Women become addicted to such guys because all human beings have an innate tendency to go after that what they cannot have. However, you will never meet Mr. Right if you keep chasing Mr. Wrong!