Often, the most attractive men are the worst prospective dates. There’s a reason that people joke about the good ones being either “gay or taken.” While there may be some truth to that, we can increase our chances of dating the right guy by weeding out the wrong ones.
How do you spot the wrong guys for you?
Listen to your friends and family. They generally know the type that doesn’t work for you when you’re completely clueless that you even had a “type.”
There are four general “wrong guys” for each woman. While the “Bad Boy” may work for one and produce a significant relationship, the best friend doesn’t work for that same person (or vice-versa). Recognizing the type you’re attracted to (but it never works out with), and choosing the opposite (or near opposite) may push you toward a direction of finding “The One.”
The Bad Boy
Alpha males are attractive to almost every woman. They’re charismatic, narcissistic, and handsome. Who could resist that?! If you are an opinionated and successful woman, chances are the Bad Boy isn’t going to work for you EVER. The Bad Boy is only a good candidate for the laid-back lady who’s looking for someone to take the reins.
The Best Friend
If your attraction is similar to that of a best friend, he may be wrong for you. If he was initially put in the “friend zone,” he should probably stay there. You may know each other TOO well—not allowing you to be really interested in each other like you would be if you had just met. There may be too many things you have in common, and sexual situations may be a little awkward. However, there are some people who like the comfort of having someone who knows them inside and out. If you’re one of those people, and security is a MUST in your life, dating a friend may work well for you.
The One Your Mom Wants
Your mom has an opinion on everyone you date. She even picks people for you through her friends’ kids. She tells them, “You’d love my daughter!” Here’s the problem: they’re too old, too young, not attractive, work too much, or aren’t masculine enough for you. If you’re adventurous (and trust your mom), a blind date may be something new that could prove to work for you. If your mom continuously sets you up with men who haven’t worked out, maybe it’s time to let her know that her services aren’t needed any longer!
The Too Good to Be True
This man could also be called “the nice guy.” If there is NOTHING wrong with him, he’s probably wrong for you. I know it may sound funny, but there’s such a thing as too perfect. If he doesn’t disagree with you on anything or have his own views, it won’t last long term.
This is why women reject the nice guys so often. They’re eager to please, non-confrontational, and truly want you to be happy. Because of their laid-back view on dating, they may not seem as manly. These guys are the underdog, being the least chosen by women… but the ones who WE SHOULD CHOOSE!
The idea is that you need to find someone who adores you… and in turn, you also adore. But initially, it means finding someone who gives you what you’re looking for without having to force the relationship to bloom. If one type of guy hasn’t worked for you in the past, it’s important to try something new until your approach works.