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Unless you live in some far away place tucked deep in the boonies, chances are you’re probably using text messages as your go-to means of romantic communication.

Texts are convenient, fast, and fun to flirt with. But before you start firing away, remember that you need to proceed with care, as a text can have all the effect of a subtly sexy wink (who doesn’t like one of those), or a sweaty handshake (yuck).

So, what’s the secret sauce?

Positive vibes! Flirty text messages are almost always upbeat, while boring messages leave the recipient with a negative taste in their mouth.

What’s the first step in getting your text flirt on?

Begin with a little self-retrospection: what type of texter are you? You can easily answer this question by peeking in your out-box. Even if the spelling is spot on, and you weren’t guilty of spamming, would you be excited to receive one of your own messages? Are they flirty? Are they fun?

Fabulous, Flirty Fun At Your Fingertips

Happy Woman Thrilled With Text MessageYes, fun. I’m a firm believer in fun, and as luck would have it, fun is the essence of flirting. Next time you’re at work, the gym, or social events, check out the people who are genuinely having fun. Aren’t others naturally drawn to them? Your text messages should have the same effect – leaving your partner mesmerized!

Check out these 5 common texting situations and learn how you can give your snoozer messages a little boost!

1. What’s Up?

Just saying “hello” is probably the most frequently sent text message (in any language) and many times it looks like this:

“Hey, how’s it going?”

“What’s up?”

“Hey you!”

Try adding some zing and setting yourself apart, by texting instead:

“I smile like an idiot when I think about you. How are you?”

“Hey there handsome, what’s up? Still working on global domination?”

“Hey you! Please stop making my imagination run wild J”

2. Are We On For?

What’s another common reason for texting? Making plans. Don’t let the quick confirmation stay dull and unappealing, or even worse, aggressive:

“Have you even left home yet?”

“You coming over?!!!”

“See you at 7pm.”

If you need to send a gentle reminder, be funny and clever by texting:

“What happened? Were you eaten by bears? ;-)”

“Come over here and kiss me hard.”

“My place, 7pm. You bring the pizza, I’ll provide the dessert.”

3. Let’s Get It On

Texting is great for cranking up the sexual heat. However, poorly thought out messages can have the opposite effect and be a major passion killer, such as:

“Want to…later?” (If you’re not already “” later, that message sure isn’t going to entice anybody!)

“Do you think I’m pretty?”

“Want me to send you a photo?”

Be creative, and write instead:

“Where are your hands? J”

I think you might have what it takes to bring out the freak in me J”

I may look innocent, but looks can be deceiving ;)”

4. You’re Awesome

Everyone loves a compliment, as long it is genuine and not:

“Is heaven missing another angel?”

“Thanks for everything”

“Haha! You’re funny”

Personalize your compliment while adding a dose of your personality with something like:

“Gorgeous, funny, and you like spicy food? I think I’m in love.”

“Sorry if I seemed nervous. It’s your fault for being so charming J”

“I love that you’re the sort of person who knows what songs not to talk over J”

5. Long Distance Lovin’

Distance doesn’t have to be a desire destroyer. Instead of sending an endless stream of “I miss you baby” – “no, I miss you more baby” types of messages, such as:

“Sleep tight, hope you had a nice day!”

“I miss you. Can’t wait to see you again.”

“Feeling lonely without you.”

Take a minute to really make them miss you:

“Tonight just dream of me next to you. Forever.”

“I can still smell you on my pillow…”

“Just sent you a dirty message via carrier pigeon.”

Voila! It’s easier than you think! With a little forethought, before you know it you’ll make each message a sweet treat. Having fun and flirting go hand in hand. So go ahead, whip out your phone and get started!

Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is passionate about communication & helping people improve their relationships.

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What Do You Think?

4 Comments | Join the discussion

  • Jon Oct 3, 2014 at 2:16 pm

    Great article!
    Lots of good tips, can see applying them to so many situations

    • Claudia Cox

      Claudia   Jon Oct 7, 2014 at 5:14 am

      Hi Jon,
      Thanks a lot!!! 🙂 I’m really happy to hear that you find the tips helpful….it gives me positive energy to keep writing!

  • Claudia Cox

    Claudia Sep 27, 2014 at 2:09 am

    Hi Kira,
    I hope your weekend’s off to a fantastic start! Thank you for reaching out and sharing some of your personal texting experiences. I’m really happy that you like some of the examples and ideas in the article ☺
    Please email me, I’d love to chat with you more!

  • Kira Sep 26, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    Hello Claudia and thank you for sharing these amazing texting styles. I think they are fabulous!
    I have gone through my fair share of texting mishaps since texting first began and really enjoy how you explained the whole texting do’s and don’ts with fantastic examples.
    My favorite examples are the what’s up and long distance examples…Awesome!!!

    Best Wishes! =)


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