By  ·  · 188 Shares

Being single isn’t always enjoyable, neither is dating. But, dating can be fun. No, really, it can be.

It is what you make it. It’s about the process and not the outcome. Now, finding love isn’t so hard, is it? How about finding the love that conquers all? Well, that’s another story. Doesn’t logic and reason go out the window when love is involved? Well, maybe when it comes to true love. But you have more to do with it than you think.

So how do you find the love that conquers all?

It’s all up to you.

Finding the Love That Conquers All

Many times we set ourselves up for failure rather than success. Is it self-sabotage? Is it emotional availability? Is it unclaimed baggage? Is it a “wants list” that goes a mile long? It could very well be all these things, but, what happens when that gets in the way of our happiness? We take care of it, that’s what. They always say the first step is admitting it. You need to look inside yourself and ask “what is it that’s holding me back?”.

If you’re always meeting the wrong people and entering into situations that are doing you harm, then it could very well be the choices you’re making. You are, after all, the common denominator in all this. I know. I’ve been there. It’s only when I realized what I was doing that I was able to stop it.

Finding the love that conquers all is about being self aware and making smart dating choices.  What are those who are successful in love doing differently? Well, I went out and found out, and I am sharing what I found out with you today because it’s really significant.

We need to change the way we approach dating and this is how…

Here are 5 steps to help you out in your journey:

1. Be Self Aware

Do a self-assessment and ask yourself what you could be doing differently. Do you have baggage? Then take care of it. Are you emotionally unavailable? Then ask yourself why. Do you always end up with the same type of person and end up hurt. Ask yourself why you choose them. By being self aware and understanding why you make the choices that you do, you will be able to make better dating choices.

2. Make a New List

Look at your partner “want list. Is it a reasonable list of things you want in a partner or is it too picky? It’s important to have standards when dating, but it’s also important to know what you need and what you want. For example, things like common values and ethics are essential, superficial things like hair color are not. Take a closer look at your current list and divide it into “need to have” and “nice to have”. By doing that you’ve opened yourself up to a whole new group of people you might not have noticed before.

3. Be Your Best Self

This one is also very important. You need to always put your best foot forward, whether it’s in dating or in life in general. This means always bettering yourself by learning new things, it means having goals in life and working to achieve them, it means looking (and smelling) your best at all times, and it means surrounding yourself with people who bring out your good side. These are all things you have complete control over. It’s up to you to be your best self and by being your best self you will be at your most attractive.

4. Look for Love in All the Right Places

People always ask me where they can meet people other than online dating. I tell them “anywhere”. Vague? Well, not really. You have to see opportunities everywhere you go. The best way to meet a partner is by doing what you already do on a daily basis. You just have to have a heightened sense of awareness to what’s around you.

Going for coffee? Look around. Is there someone who piques your interest? Go over and say hello, start a conversation. Playing a sport? Going to the gym? Doing your hobby? All great places to meet someone. Don’t be shy, just saying “hi my name is …” is enough. If they’re not interested just say “nice to meet you” and move on. The right places are the situations you make for yourself, so go out there and meet someone new!!

5. Don’t Lose Hope

It’s so hard not to lose hope when you’ve been on date after date after date. I know, trust me, I know, but you can’t lose hope. Think of it this way, every person you meet is a lesson learned. It’s a new cobblestone on the path to your one true love, the love that will conquer all. It will happen. It just takes some people longer than others. You just have to be ready for it. Thinking positively will attract positive experiences, remember that. So don’t lose hope.

These 5 steps will help you find the love that conquers all. Being self aware will lay a solid foundation for your love life, making a new list will help you know what’s really important in a partner for you, being your best self will project the right image out to the world, looking for love in all the right places will always have you in the right place at the right time and not losing hope will keep you strong.

It won’t happen overnight, but, it will happen. Just be patient and do all that you can to make it happen for you.  Don’t blame anyone else for the choices that you make. If you make a mistake it’s OK, we all do. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward into the arms of your true love. It can happen … just believe! I know I do.

Your Sister in Dating Bliss,

Single Dating Diva

Suzie A.

Suzie is from SingleDatingDiva, an award winning blog about being single, dating, sex and relationships with some recipes thrown into the mix.  The blog showcases the many adventures we have and how challenging, but also exciting dating really is because Single isn’t a bad word and dating really can be fun!! With experience comes wisdom and she also share some lessons learned along the way helping others around the world through her consulting service. You can also find her on the Mr n Mrs Romance Podcast where she her co-host dish on everything Sex, Relationships and Dating with some special guests. Suzie is the WINNER of Best Overall Dating Blog 2 years in a row and named one of the 10 BEST Women’s Dating Experts! Follow her on Twitter and Like her FaceBook page.

What Do You Think?

2 Comments | Join the discussion

  • Billy Dumass Jan 24, 2015 at 10:16 am

    If your looking for someone that is going to make YOU happy , then you might go through a lot of people my friend. If you truly learn to be content and happy with yourself things will become so much easier for you. I’ve learned through expearecs that true happiness comes from within yourself. Nobody can make you happy if your not already. If that’s the case , find out why ,and redefine some values and core beliefs is a great place to start.

    Reply
  • Joshua Oduro Sep 26, 2014 at 11:58 pm

    I am a man looking for woman long term relationship.
    The one who can make me happy .
    Kindly help me.
    Thanks

    Reply

Leave a Comment

Your name will appear above your comment. You may use a “pen name”.