Cheating, infidelity, lies, mistrust… it all sucks. Statistics show that a whopping 57% of men and 54% of women admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had.
To add to that… 74% of men and 68% of women say they would have an affair if they would never get caught. WOW. Seriously?
I’ve experienced cheating first-hand; the pain, the frustration, the anger, and the resentment… I’ve experienced it all. The worst part of it is that it creates a sense of mistrust in future relationships. You can enter new relationships, but that fear of infidelity will always remain in the back of your mind.
Cheating has a way of messing with your sense of worthiness; it attacks your self-confidence and tugs at your heart. But the toughest part is the part where you wonder… Is he/she cheating on me?
In a world where cheating seems to have become the ‘norm’, how do you know if your partner is cheating? What are the telltale signs? Let me list them out for you…
They Have An Excuse For Everything
They’re constantly late. They miss dinners and dates. They forget appointments and special events. And to top it off, they have an excuse for it all. If this is a recurring theme in your relationship… take it as a huge red flag. If your partner truly loves you, they will respect you by showing up, minus the need for excuses.
They Hide Their Phone
Their phone is either facedown or in their pocket at all times. They even take their phone to the bathroom. No, this isn’t an OCD thing… this is them hiding the evidence. If they honestly have nothing to hide, they won’t feel a need to hide.
The ‘Facts’ Don’t Line Up
Their stories don’t match up. Dates or times shift, and the names of people change… they forget where they were and ‘facts’ just don’t add up. It’s hard work keeping track of fake names and events; no wonder they get their stories mixed up.
Accusations and Anger
They’re quick to get angry. You ask a simple question, and they respond with fire. They’ve also started making accusations towards you. Why? Because this is what people do when they feel guilty or ashamed… they shift the blame and project their shit onto you. Don’t let them do this to you. Their shit is theirs to own, not yours.
Something Doesn’t Feel Right
3 words: Trust your instincts! If something truly doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right. Simple. Don’t overthink it and stop overanalyzing it. We’re born with the awesome ability to detect danger through our intuition, so trust it.
If you’re experiencing one of these signs or a combination of these signs, that’s YOUR proof. You can still choose to stick around and wait for something more concrete, but I assure you it won’t be good for your self-worth.
The longer you remain with an unfaithful partner, the lower your self-worth drops. When you get to that point of low self-worth, you’re basically giving your partner the green light to treat you like crap. Don’t let that happen! Respect yourself enough to know what’s good for you.
If your partner is cheating, that has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. That is a choice that they make; a choice that reflects their true nature. Know when to walk away and respect yourself enough to do so.