It’s not easy to spot a cheater. Sometimes they’re so thorough with their alibis and distractions that an affair can go on for years without the other person finding out. But there are a couple subtle telltale behaviors that will give them away.
The following is a list of behaviors typically displayed by a cheater:
1) They Stray From Their Routine
Any romantic relationship will eventually lead to an intimate knowledge of the other’s behaviors: what they do and where they go during they day, when they get tired, when they get hungry, etc. The first sign of a cheater will be the subtle ways that these change. Romantic partners, given enough time, will share an unspoken bond, and if changes in the routine trigger negative feelings, then it might be a sign of the partner’s infidelity.
2) They’re Secretive About Their Computer Usage
The Internet has been a instrumental in abiding cheaters—everything from Facebook flirting to instant messenger. If your partner suddenly becomes secretive about their computer usage—shutting windows down when you enter the room, for example—it may be cause for concern.
3) They Become More Concerned About Their Style
The interest of someone who’s not their partner will make the cheater more concerned with their style. New clothing, a new hairstyle, or a “fresh look,”—all could be signs of cheater trying to impress their new interest.
4) They Want More Privacy
A cheater may become more despondent and, therefore, may prefer more alone time. This could be a sign of guilt or dissatisfaction with the home life compared to the cheating life.
5) They Become More Emotionally Unstable
Increased anger and/or a desire to argue are also signs of a cheater. Arguments are methods used to push away from you and spend more time with their love interest.
6) There’s a Drastic Change in Their Bedtime Behavior
A drastic change in their bedtime behavior could mean your partner is cheating. On one hand, they might be more aggressive in an effort to match the intimacy of their affair. On the other hand, they might suddenly have a lack of any interest, which is probably a result of guilt.
7) They Hide Finances
Shared finances are common in any romantic relationship. However, a cheater will go to great lengths to hide expenditures spent in maintaining an affair. Hotels, restaurants, and other gifts will certainly evoke suspicion, so cheaters will keep those from showing up on shared bank statements by using personal accounts, Paypal, or other financial tools.
8) Their Plans Become More Vague
If your significant other used to be detailed about their plans—going into great detail about the movie they saw or who was there, for example—but suddenly resort to “it was fine”-type answers, that could be a sign of a cheater.
9) They Hide Their Phones
Texting is the preferred method of communication these days, but if you notice your partner suddenly with more discretion, that could be a warning sign. Cheaters will also leave the room to text with more frequency. Beware the partner that suddenly becomes more guarded with their texts.
10) They Have a Sudden Interest in Exercise
Long-term relationships are characterized by the comfort we find in each other, and, therefore, a relaxed attitude toward keeping in shape. However, if your partner suddenly has a strong desire for strenuous exercise (more than just getting in shape), it may mean they want to impress someone new with their physique.