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Relationships of all kinds must begin from somewhere;

The road that leads to romantic relationships must be followed by taking the right steps that leads you down a romantic journey.

The Journey to Long Lasting Romantic Relationships Start Here:

Let me start off with one of Bill Bryson’s quote on travelling “To my mind, the greatest reward and luxury of travel is to be able to experience everyday things as if for the first time, to be in a position in which almost nothing is so familiar it is taken for granted.”

I want you to notice are the underlined words in the quote. This is exactly what you need to do for a romantic relationship to last a long time. You need to experience everything that happens in your relationship as if it is new to you.

I want you to think back to the beginning of your relationship, when you first stated dating someone that meant a lot to you. I don’t mean someone you were just casually dating. I mean a person who you might have wanted marry or your current wife or husband.

Picture all the exciting moments, emotional expressions, feelings, happiness and all sort of positive energy you put into loving that particular person. Remember them vividly, and now look at how much of that positive energy you have presently toward your partner…

Do you notice a decrease in the pattern of energy you apply towards him or her now? Hence, the level of your romantic love is being reduced every time your energy is getting diminished.

The Way Forward:

You have to start now and begin to bring back all the excitement, laughter, great feelings, and positive emotional expression you were full of at the initial stage of your relationship.

As you go along the road to a long lasting romantic relationship, all of that energy must be sustained, if you truly want a relationship that will last for an extended period of time.

You may not find it easy initially, especially if you’ve been in your relationship for some years, and might not be satisfied with your partner now as compared to the way they were when the relationship first started.

If that is that case, what you need to do is to begin to see everything new. Even if your eyes don’t want to allow it happen, your mind can make it happen!  It is a game of the mind. Once you can conceive that with your mind, eventually, your eyes will see it too.

Anthony Adeokun

As a motivational speaker, life coach, singles and relationship coach and an author, Anthony Adeokun offers individual and group couches. He has written many relationship articles and books. He is the author of I Love Relationship Blog.

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  • Natalie Jun 27, 2015 at 2:46 pm

    Everything you say is true but I later realised something when my relationship wasn’t stable…that it is not about what you read that helps but about how well you handle it.
    All relationships have their flaws so you have to create your own antidote cos you know your spouse better than even his mother does. Having the right energy to handle it and also the perfect time cos everything in life is about timing…

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  • Mpondokazi Jan 31, 2014 at 3:56 am

    I just wish my man can do that and we can move forward, i love him so much and he doesnt care anymore, and we used to be tongue and saliva 🙁

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  • Anthony Jul 30, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    Thanks Satine

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  • Satine Jul 28, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    On point Anthony!

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  • Francis Jul 19, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    Lovely write-up!!

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    • Anthony   Francis Jul 23, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Oh Francis, thanks for finding it lovely.

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