Are you and your mate like 2 ships passing in the night? Do you work late while your significant other works the morning shift? Do you often go for days sometimes weeks without any quality time?
This sadly is the reality for so many couples. Whether you are married or living together, too often the demands of our jobs and children make it almost impossible to share any quality time together. This is a growing problem and without care, this can be the start of a divide that may be too far to come back from.
Couples often put the needs of their family and jobs before their primary relationship (the one between you and your significant other). They forget to stoke the fire that burned so brightly and passionately in the beginning of their relationship. They lose sight of all of the reasons why they fell in love in the first place. They let external demands come between them and create a rift that begins to erode the precious inner circle that exist between 2 people.
Here are My 5 Tips to Reclaim Your Passion, and to Keep Romance Alive!
1. Make the Couple Circle Pact
This is a sacred pact that is formed between you and your significant other and no one, not ever, can come inside. Form this circle by facing each other and hold hands. The energy that flows from you to your mate, and then flows back to you is sacred. This is the bond that keeps you intact as a couple. You must protect this at all costs. This circle becomes the source of your power as a couple to endure all of the demands of life, family and job and will serve as your armor to shield your relationship. Every day, take a moment and activate this circle. Look into each other’s eyes and recommit and validate this Couple Circle Pact.
2. Small Acts Big Rewards
I am a true believer in the power of small gestures and acts of love. This is especially important when there just isn’t enough time in the day to spend quality time with your mate. Make a habit of leaving little notes of love. It only takes a minute. This will have a huge payoff for the person receiving them and also for you. It makes you stop and take a moment to really appreciate your mate and to let him/her know that they are important and that you appreciate them. This keeps the romance energy flow active, even when you can’t be together.
3. Plan 2 Dates a Month
Schedule in romance. Just as you schedule in everything else in your life, you MUST schedule in romance. This allows you to reactivate and refresh the love you have for each other. On these dates, do not talk about kids or work. Pretend that this is one of your first dates. Get to know each other all over again. Ask questions about their dreams, desires, fantasies and what excites them. Let your mate be an individual again. Be curious about their aspirations and visions for their future. Take an interest in the person again.
4. Be Playful
Send each other naughty texts of what you’d like to do to them. Grab their butt when you walk by them. Nuzzle their neck and give them a breathy kiss. You might not have time always to share quality intimate time together, so these little tweaks are especially crucial to stoke the flames of desire. They keep it activated and alive.
5. Build up Romance
There is nothing sexier than anticipation. Just as you schedule in dates, schedule in sex time. Send and invitation for sex. Make it fun. Build up excitement by leaving small notes about what you’re going to do to them.
Relationships are like a volleyball game. You need to keep the ball in the air by constantly tending to it. Don’t let the ball drop. If you do, don’t let it stay down for long. Romance, just like a fire, needs to be watched over, tended to and fed.