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Do you fear rejection? Do you worry about getting hurt? Are you scared to get your heart stomped on?

Maybe you’re thinking, “If I am constantly worried and afraid of these things, where can love slide in? Where does love fit? How can love squeeze by?

This is a very human tendency and there are some things we can do to ease this kind of constant worry. Let me explain.

Rejection and How to Overcome It and Have a Healthy RelationshipThe good news is that fear is a protection mechanism of our brains. Our brains will try everything in their power to keep us safe. Love is risky. Love is daring. Love does take courage. Love can bring up all these emotions: fear, worry, hurt, doubt. While this is normal, there are ways to prevent these feelings. Yes!

3 TIPS for NOT WORRYING about Rejection, Hurt, or Doubt!

#1: Give it everything you have.

Most of the time, if people are holding back in a relationship, it is a surefire recipe for disaster. Quit trying to play with one foot out the door. If you give the situation all of your effort, time and attention, there is no need to worry or regret because you are fully aligned with you. Play full out and give it 100%.

#2: To get love, you have to GIVE love.

A man I was dating years ago told me this. At first it stung, but now I get it. I was waiting until someone gave me love instead of giving love to someone. It’s so much more fun, and you do not have to be a victim. How about you? Are you holding your love in, to see if he’ll love you first? Try being your open, loving self and see what happens. Give love!

#3: If you are scared or worried, communicate it in order to release it.

Usually, once I acknowledge and express the fear it subsides naturally and fades away. Don’t just sit on the fear and worry or it will fester. So, yes, you have to be the ‘V’ word. V.U.L.N.E.R.A.B.L.E.

If you can’t be vulnerable and open with someone, a long-term relationship will not work out anyway. Is it a test? No, but it is a good way to tell if this person could be a great future partner. Right?

At the same time as you try these tips, be safe about your dating habits. Trust yourself enough to know if someone really is a potential partner. Listen to your heart, not your doubts and fears.

Being in a healthy partnership is about expressing yourself, your emotions, and your feelings. Try these simple things and watch your dating life transform. You may even be surprised how the simplest of changes in how we operate can bring love right to us. Wouldn’t that reduce the amount of fear, worry, and doubt we experience! Besides, it makes the whole dating journey more fun and peaceful.

Suzanne Muller-Heinz

Suzanne Muller-Heinz is the master of being your most lovable self. She’s an International Speaker, Coach and Author of the book Loveable: 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. She coaches professional single men and women who want to escape the dating scene once and for all to date one exquisite person for the rest of their lives!


Looking for love is difficult; however, being lovable attracts real love faster. Her passion is developing your skills so you are ready to experience a healthy, fulfilling and lasting relationship. How would you like tonever lose yourself in a relationship again? She’s happily married to the man of her dreams, but before meeting him, she went through her fair share of crap. She knows exactly how to take complexity and confusion out of dating, making it simple, fun and doable. Attracting an extraordinary relationship takes a commitment to yourself, a willingness to be a student, and a determinationto have the relationship of your dreams.


If you think you have these qualities, you may be ready for Suzanne’s coaching. To find out, schedule a complimentary 30-60 minute Dating & Love Life consultation with her at this link.

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  • Laurence Dec 13, 2014 at 11:40 pm

    Perfect timing! Thank you so much….


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