New relationships are wonderful with all those “feel good” hormones racing through your body. There is excitement and each moment together is new and fun! As the relationship matures, we learn more and more about our partners, and we become comfortable.
Eventually, even the best relationships can become stale. It is normal for couples to have times when they are more or less in love with each other. When you fall into a rut, you need to do something proactive to get the spark back into your relationship.
Let’s learn how to reignite the spark and rejuvenate your relationship in three easy steps.
Appreciate Each Other
It is so important to let your partner know how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them. I know this sounds simple, but we forget to do it. It is easy to get into a habit of complaining, but how often do we let the other person know all they are doing that is right.
If you are focusing on all the things you do not like about your partner, you will notice them more often, and it will change the way you feel about them. You will become more frustrated, critical, and unhappy in the relationship. Instead, remember all the reasons you fell in love and chose this person in the first place. Now, share with your partner how grateful you are for all they do, how much you love them and appreciate them.
Spend Time Together
I am not talking about your ordinary date nights. Yes, date nights are a good idea, but they can get boring and contribute to the rut you are in. You go to the same restaurants and try not to talk about the kids. This is not adding the spark back to your relationship. I want you to try something different.
Take an active interest in each other’s lives. Spend some time really getting to know each other all over again and unlock newness in your relationship. Have more fun together. Don’t wait for special occasions; create them.
Remember when you were first dating? It is time to go back to dating them again. How about surprising your partner with a small romantic gesture. Recreate your first date, or share a new activity together. Remember to flirt and be playful. Life can be serious, but your relationship is your safe haven. It is a place you can put all the stress aside and just enjoy being together.
Intimacy and passion are not just for the beginning of relationships. It is even more important as the relationship progresses to make time for each other. You will feel more connected, bonded, and closer emotionally to your partner. The key is to create passion with intention. Couples who make passion a priority are more patient, appreciative, and forgiving with each other.
Both men and women need to be flirted with on a regular basis. It doesn’t take much time to whisper a sweet nothing in your partner’s ear or to send a flirty text during the day; be creative and have fun.
Now it is time to add more affection and physical touch to your routine. Start with an extra-long kiss in the morning, add hugs, hand holding, quick passing kisses, snuggling, or maybe a massage. Don’t wait to be in the mood for intimacy. Add it to your schedule and create the mood.
Ladies, it is time to take out that outfit you keep in the back drawer, the one you might have forgotten you had. The one that makes you feel sexy and makes him take notice. Gentlemen, help her get in the mood, run her a bath and maybe give her a massage after. Now enjoy where the evening takes you! The more passion and intimacy you add to your relationship, the more you will look forward to these times together.
There is nothing like the feeling of being in love and being loved. It does take effort to keep the spark alive, but the results are well worth it.
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