In 2016, women are more likely to ask for a divorce than men. Does this mean that women aren’t prepared to endure the rough with the smooth, or does it mean that men are just too lazy to even instigate a change?
“I would ask for a divorce but I’m eating, see”.
Or does it simply mean that guys just aren’t pulling their weight?
According to some recent research, men are just as likely as women to break things off if they are not married but living together, which suggests that men are more prepared to stick things out and see how it goes if they’re married.
Women, however, have clearly seen enough by that point and want to take action.
But what are the reasons women ask for divorce?
A common reason is that women just don’t feel enough love from their partner. And central to this is that their man just isn’t on the communication train.
Poor communication is often cited as the prime reason why women want to end things. Whereas men would define poor communication as “nagging” (when they’re trying to watch football and you want to know why the credit card bill hasn’t been paid), women define poor communication as a lack of validation.
Put simply, if you don’t let your partner know that you love and appreciate them, they’re going to assume that you don’t care and that this whole “relationship thing” is worthless.
Because communication really can make or break a relationship, here are 7 communication habits that women dig (guys take note!):
1. Send Her A Few Heartfelt Compliments
Compliments should not be handed out once in a blue moon, nor should they only be dished out when your partner has “worked for it.”
Compliments should be given to your partner every single day. Why? Because compliments make a woman feel special. They make them feel as though getting dressed up for you was worth it, and that you actually do still appreciate every single time she does it. Compliments give women confidence, too, and reassure them that you’ve always got their back.
2. Express Gratitude
Okay, so you’ve got a bachelor party to organize, poker to play with your buddies and a world to save. We know and understand the pressure here.
But your partner does a lot of work, and the saying that a woman’s work is never done? Yup, that’s totally true.
From the dishes to your ironing, the bills to her job, your partner does a lot for you. And now it’s time to start expressing gratitude.
3. Ask Her About Her Dreams
Your partner has hopes and dreams, but you might not know it because you don’t ask her often enough. If you guys haven’t discussed your plans for the future, now is the time to start.
It isn’t good enough that you think your wife is happy with the job she is currently in. She might hate it but may be afraid of opening up to you about what she really wants.
It’s important that you let her know you’re prepared to listen to her dreams and even encourage them.
4. Listen To Her!
There are few things that irritate a woman more than a man who doesn’t listen to the small things. Although you might not attach much importance to your partner’s story about a fight she had at work today with a co-worker (because it’s ‘just girls being girls’) your partner truly cares and they want you to care, too.
Whenever she is talking, give her your undivided attention. Show that you’re listening by asking questions and make sure you follow up on anything important that she tells you. Don’t dismiss her concerns.
5. Brag About Her
Yes, we sometimes fail at things. We make mistakes and occasionally we look less than gorgeous.
But we are human beings and it’s your job to build us up rather than put us down.
Brag about your partner. Say good things about her and encourage her to excel. Remind her that mistakes happen, but that it’s important to learn from them.
6. Admit You Are Wrong
They say that pride comes before a fall, and if you cling to your pride during arguments with your partner, your fall might just be the end of the relationship.
Sometimes, men are wrong. That’s just the way it is, but unfortunately guys don’t like to admit this.
Even if you feel that you’re still right, you should admit that you’re in the wrong during an argument with your partner. Let her be right for once, hold your hands up, move on and tell her you love her.
7. It’s Not All About You
Finally, it’s crucial that you realize this relationship is not all about you. Even if you bring in the most money or have the most talents, there are two people here and both of you have things to say.
Don’t make all the conversations about you. Invite your partner to have an input. Ask for her opinion and advice, and always ask her how her day went each and every day.
So, there you have it. 7 tips that can make or break your relationship. Did I forget any? Leave a comment below! Bisous x Claudia
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