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History tells us that is the male in a partnership who does the cheating. But a recent survey concluded that women are stepping up their game when it comes to stepping out of their relationships.

Cheating Issues? How to Make Her Love You and Only You…According to a report by Bloomberg Businessweek from the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey showed that women have had more affairs in the past two decades than in previous years. The percentage of men who admitted to infidelity “held constant at 21 percent,” while “the percentage of wives having affairs rose almost 40 percent … to 14.7 percent.”

Based on these statistics it seemed like it was time to find out the why women cheat

Here Are 5 Consistent Reasons and One Way to Fix the Issue Forever:

1. When a Woman Will Have an Emotional Affair Not a One Night Stand

A 44 year old woman who’d been married and divorced twice admitted the first time she cheated was because she felt emotionally disconnected and her husband wasn’t affectionate. The second time she cheated was because she realized she wasn’t in love with her husband and she wanted out of the relationship. She ultimately divorced him too. Not because of the cheating and he never found out.

2. A Cheating Wife Is More Likely to Swap Up

Another woman admitted she cheated using the Victoria Milan website (an infidelity site). She explained she did it because her husband lied to her about financial issues. “My husband didn’t work, can’t keep jobs, and I just got sick of it.” She’s been dating the same man from the site for two years now. He is successful and secure. She told me she loves him and she’s not going to give him up.

3. Women Feel Better About Their Physical Appearance When They Are Cheating

One woman shared, “I cheated on my ex husband because he was absent. He didn’t make me feel desirable. I needed to be important but his job took the title.

4. Women Feel Cheating Is More Acceptable Now for Women

I know someone who is a cheater a friend shared. She cheats simply because she wants to complicate her romantic life. She has this weird obsession of dating different guys and girls just because it’s trendy. Cheating excites her sexually. She feels like Olivia Pope in “Scandal” or the Jen character in the book “My Lover’s Keeper.”

5. “Revenge Cheating” Is More Common Amongst Women

“I left my marriage and spent 7 years in and out of that new relationship where I was then cheated on in various ways. Many women were involved. I cheated back. But that wasn’t gratifying, she told me. Now she coaches women who have been cheated on, or have cheated. “Helping women see cheating (on either side) for the true gift it can be. One of self reflection, growth and a path to heal old wounds and finally own your own worth and power.” she said.

The Best Single Tip for a Fixing Your Romance:

If you find that you are a man in a relationship with a cheater, DO NOT get mad or even. If you are interested in saving the relationship search your soul to find your deepest level of compassion.

Step outside of yourself and into your woman’s shoes. Don’t accuse, persecute or berate, rather engage in an open ended dialog in order to gain understanding. The better you hear her side of the relationship and the kinder you are as you move through this painful experience the more she will fall in love with you and want to be faithful.

If you are meant to be together, you will work through this difficult time. If you are not, this process will support you in being able to move to closure in a peaceful and loving way.

Kerri Zane

Kerri is an internationally recognized single mom lifestyle expert, co-parenting authority, speaker, spokesperson, Emmy award winning television executive producer and Amazon best selling author of “It Takes All 5: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding the REAL One.” Her new novel, “My Lover’s Keeper” releases February 2016. She has an M.A. in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica and a B.A. from UCLA. Visit her website at kerrizane.com

What Do You Think?

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  • Monica Oct 24, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    Shakira,
    No judgment. Where do you see yourself in 1 year, or in 5 years?
    Are you satisfied with maintaining the relationships as it is with your husband and lover? Or are considering option to quit your lover a work on your marriage?

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  • Leila Oct 24, 2015 at 2:01 am

    It’s a shame when people cheat on each other. It seems to me what they’re really saying is – I want something else, but I’m not sure I want to lose you. That’s not a strong position and leads to a lot of heart break and broken trust. However, what Kerri says at the end of the article is right. Someone who cheats is essentially someone who doesn’t know how to love – either themselves or anyone else – yet. With someone on their side – someone who understands what they are doing to ‘gain’ love, they can learn how to give love and thereby to share it with someone else who can do the same. It seems to me that once a person has experienced this kind of love, they won’t cheat anymore. Instead, they will use some of the advice on these pages to keep the love they have.

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  • Yes sir Oct 23, 2015 at 10:47 pm

    Pull out of the marriage. Period

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  • AJ Oct 23, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    I’ll try to keep this in mind if it ever comes to this, because I have a hard time tolerating liars as it is; infidelity is an even worse form of betrayal. Nevertheless, if she is worth fighting for, I’ll try to be understanding but I hope it never happens.

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  • shakira Oct 22, 2015 at 9:17 pm

    I’m cheating on my husband with a ex boyfriend whom I come to love but still love my husband what can I do there is no connection between my husband and myself

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