Episode 59

Falling for the Wrong Person

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They say love is complicated, and there is nothing more complicated than falling in love with someone you probably can’t have. In today’s episode, Mike and Nora discuss the challenges that come with having feelings for the wrong person.

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  • ConfusedinDallas Jan 21, 2014 at 1:40 pm

    We lived together for 2.5 years, we’ve been over for two. There has been no contact between us in over 8 months. Then one random day I see him driving through my apt complex, almost every evening after that I see him either driving by or parked in the parking lot. This went on for about 6 weeks and then he appeared at my patio. I asked what he was doing here and he responded “Don’t read in to this. I am just checking to see if you’re ok”. Really????? So, for the next 6 weeks he’d call almost every day and we saw each other several times a week. Though I’ve participated in the outings (shopping, house hunting, dinners, lunches, etc…), I am confused as to what is going on… It came to a head this past Friday when I asked him “So what are we just friends”? He became extremely angry, jumped up off the couch, went out the door and turned and said “Can’t I have a f’ing weekend? I am not having this conversation with you right now”. What???? Did I miss something? I haven’t heard from him since and have now blocked him from texting or calling. For clarity, we did have sex three times during the six weeks (he’s never really been the “normal guy” wanting sex all the time – that’s for another discussion…), so I am fairly comfortable this was not just about sex for him. But I am confused what it is was about? Why all the energy to stalk me and then suddenly he goes off the deep end?

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  • Doctor Jan 17, 2014 at 7:47 am

    Hi,
    Wondering if Nora is mean sometimes? Well, I and people like me listen to these kinds of ‘advises’ or ask someone for a solution to our relationship problems is mainly because it is hard for me to accept or acknowledge the truth, may be I like to hide behind the denial. I therefore consider a direct black or white advise by Nora as very concrete and action ‘takeable’. Unlike Mike’s who says, may be, kind of, could be or probably. That basically does not tell me what to do, like stay or go. or yes or no. And if I keep lingering I am just wasting my time. So Nora, I am fine with you. Hopefully many others are too! Great work.

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  • HeartBroken Jan 15, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    As Nora said, I fought for someone who was conflicted, who SAID he cared, loved me but was committed, but said he wasn’t ready for marriage. But what do you do when you find out he’s been sexting ex’s? Is he really conflicted or just a flat out liar?

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  • Marrissa Jan 15, 2014 at 6:23 am

    Hello guys!

    I’ve been dating a man who shows me he loves me but has never said it and I haven’t either.
    He always makes me a priority, affectionate and loving and spoils me to death.
    It’s been little over six months. What do u think?
    Side note: I’ve met his family and friends and spent the holidays with them but I haven’t introduced mine as they are young and I want to know it has a potential to last before that happens.
    Help! 🙂

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  • Kat Jan 15, 2014 at 2:39 am

    I have been in an exclusive relationship with an entertainer for almost a year. I don’t know for sure but I do know he bends over backwards to spend time with me and my daughter and has a relationship with my family. We see each other about 5x a week. He lives with his mom and I live with my parents. In the beginning he said he wasn’t looking for a GF and needed to keep our dating quiet for his career and also to not hurt his ex wife or ex GF who still are good friends and work with him. At about 5 mos he wanted to come out but I told him not yet- he has many fans that are influential and can help his career..something I can’t do for him. He invites me to come to all his gigs and I’m sure a lot of people have their suspicions but no one asks me: Fast forward to now- I am wondering if I am doing the right thing by staying with him. I know I’m not supposed to wait for any guy but the time we spend, the way he makes me feel beautiful and loved compares to no one ever. What should I do?

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  • Emma Jan 14, 2014 at 3:44 pm

    Seem to always fall for nobs..

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  • Emma Jan 14, 2014 at 3:37 pm

    Dating married man…not proud…but sightly different from architycal type…wife left few months ago for another man…recently stated wanted to come back…..told me on birthday wanted to make ago with wife…was very angry as felt had been led on….told him to sort himself out…wouldn’t entertain him anymore. Told me loved me and didn’t really know what wanted….wants to still carry on seeing me …wife away for another three weeks…works away..so confused….HELP

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  • Elizabeth Jan 14, 2014 at 8:49 am

    My ex called me telling me that he wanted to be closer to me, closer than friends, I told him that it was not possible, that we were over and I was seeing other people and that I could be his friend but that’s it, he said he thought we were working things out, I said no and asked when I gave him that impression, anyway, as we were talking, all I can hear was Mike and Nora’s voice saying, it’s time to not be nice and be brutally honest, so i said to him, “I love you as a person and as a human being but I don’t want to be in a relationship with you and I think we should not talk anymore, you need to move on and I’m not the person to help you to get over this, I’m sorry but this is the truth” it sucked to say it to him, it fell horrible, but what else can I do? he got upset and said fine, bye, Fyou, goodbye…

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  • Mlababy Jan 14, 2014 at 5:46 am

    my boyfriend is avoiding me,he does not call me anymore and gives excuse for me not to come to his house but he he tells me he is still in love with me

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