Wondering where the spark went in your relationship? It happens to the best of us. The honeymoon period fades and the reality of day-to-day quickly sets in. Things become routine, comfortable and sometimes a bit boring.
We stop doing the little things… that we did in the beginning of the relationship to make our partner feel special and loved. As a result, that initial spark and passion begins to diminish.
The loss of passion is one of the major killers of relationships. If you’ve been feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner, there are some things that you can start doing today to reconnect and rekindle your love.
Just by following these five essential tips you can bring the spark back into your relationship and create a much stronger bond:
#1 – Get Inquisitive
Remember when you first started dating, and you were in the ‘Getting to Know You’ phase. It was easy and seemed effortless. You would notice something and ask a million different questions. And you were sincere. You really wanted to learn more about them.
However, as time passes, we quit trying to get to know the other person. Nobody is the exact same person that they were 2, 5 or even 10 years ago. We all change our opinions, preferences, tastes, hobbies, and even fashion styles over the years.
There’s always something new that you can learn about your significant other, regardless of how long you’ve been together.
Even if you think you know all there is, get inquisitive. Ask. Their answers might shock you as you discover new things that you never knew before. The simple novelty of getting to know one another again, can actually help you reconnect.
#2 – Make Them Feel Special
Another great way to help bring the spark back into your relationship is through sending digital love notes or as most people refer to them as ‘sweet text messages.’
One of the best type of text messages is the simple good morning text. Sending a good morning text will not only make them feel special but closer to you as well. You don’t have to be Shakespeare to ignite passion.
A simple ‘good morning, baby’ text can make all the difference in the world. Remember, it’s the intention behind the text that makes you feel a certain way. A good morning text always carries a silent loving message with it that translates in our hearts and heads, ‘I think of you when I wake up.’
Who doesn’t want to be someone’s first thought upon waking?!
Below are just a few examples:
“I just woke up and you’re already on my mind.”
“Good morning baby. Have an amazing day I love you.”
“Good morning… I just wanted you to know how much I truly do care. You’re always in my thoughts.”
A quick google search can also bring up tons of great messages to send. It’s surprising how much of a positive impact this simple act can make on your relationship. Creating a habit of sending sweet little texts daily can help build up your relationship and bring back those warm fuzzy feelings again.
#3 – Recall Your Love Story
Similar to the epic romance novel, ‘The Notebook,’ sometimes you have to remind your partner of what you’ve shared. Reminisce on the good times and get sentimental. Dust off that old scrapbook or scroll through your phone’s photo gallery and send them a picture of you both together and happy, from the past with the caption, “Remember when we ….”
Try going out where you went on your very first date years ago. Talk about how you first met, what attracted you the most, when you knew they were the person for you? Remembering your love story can help put you both back in the mental state you need to rekindle your love.
#4 – Get Your Sexy Back
Yes, I said it. Get your sexy back! There’s this great commercial for Walgreens that shows this woman getting all dolled up for a date night at home. The tagline goes, “Of course you go all out for date night, even if you’re just staying in.” I love that commercial. It’s a great example of what we should all strive for. It’s so easy, especially after a long day to be lazy and not put any effort in our appearance. Sweats and an oversized t-shirt isn’t exactly sexy.
Try to make going all out part of your regular routine. Instead of sweats, squeeze into a pair of fitted jeans. Put on a nice top, do your hair, polish your nails and smile more. When you’re looking your best you feel better, which will ultimately attract your partner to you.
#5 – Do Something Daring Together
Relationships thrive on shared experience. Spending time together in the form of a fun activity instead of the traditional dinner and a movie can be the boost you need. Not only does it help you connect in a new exciting way but it also gives you and your partner the opportunity to learn more about one another.
Try to pick something challenging, that neither of you have done before. Train together for a charity marathon, try a romance couples’ cooking or dance class. Join a bowling league together or plan a weekend road trip.
It doesn’t matter what the activity is as long as it’s something different. The goal is to have fun while creating some new memories together.
If you’ve been just going through the motions in your relationship, following these five essential tips can help bring the spark back into your relationship and awaken the passion you once had.