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Relationships have the tendency to be very complicated at times, due to the lack of or because of ineffective communication, and learning how to express and share your thoughts and feelings with your mate is important to the success of your relationship.

Communication Issues in Relationship? How to Have a Better Relationship!Developing the ability to effectively communicate your wants and needs in a loving, personable way is the best skill you can learn that will enhance your relationship, bring you closer, and cause you to fall in love over and over again each day. Couples who spend time together engaged in conversations have a better success rate of having a happy, loving, strong, and lasting relationship, than those who don’t talk at all or those who are in a relationship where there’s a lack of communication.

Communication strengthens the bond that holds a relationship together, and is extremely important to the health of the relationship, but when there is a lack of communication or no communication, the relationship begins to decline and eventually fail.

In every relationship, couples must understand that communication is a skill that has to be learned, because they bring their environment, past, and upbringing into the relationship, which causes their communication style to be different and based on their past and current experiences. One of the most important things to understand is that, just because you’re talking to each other, doesn’t mean you’re communicating.

Communication is more than, “hey, how you’re doing, and what’s going on today”. It’s about having an engaging conversation, having the ability to listen and stay emotionally attuned, it’s the ability to have a conversation that is of substance, it’s the ability to have a conversation that causes you to think and challenges you, it’s having the ability to have a conversation that’s thought-provoking, and causes you to change so you can become a better version of yourself.

When you and your mate engage in conversation, you should become intellectually motivated and stimulated, and you become inspired, motivated, or encouraged in some way. However, when there’s a lack of communication or no communication, your relationship suffers and you end up drifting apart.

Many couples complain about the lack of communication within their relationship, point fingers at each other when they stop communicating, and don’t take responsibility for their part in the problem. Communication occurs between two people, not just one person. It takes two people to make a relationship work and it takes two people to communicate.

I always say, communication is a two-way street. You can either go in the same direction or you can make a U-turn, the choice is yours. There are many ways to improve communication in your relationship, but the question becomes are you willing to make changes and put in the work?

Many couples say that they want to improve their communication, but when it comes to doing the work or when they are given ways to change, they usually change their minds or say, “no, I’m not willing to do that” or “that’s hard, why should I do that.”

So what are you willing to do to improve communication in your relationship?

Are you willing to:

  • Listen without interrupting
  • Stay focus and not allow your mind to wander
  • Be open and honest
  • Schedule time every day to have an engaging conversation
  • Ask clarifying questions, and don’t automatically assume and
  • Stop speaking for your mate

If you are not willing to do these things, then you’re not ready to improve communication in your relationship. Communicating should be the top priority and should be an ongoing process in your relationship. Without communication ,there is no relationship.

Communication is like breathing. You need it for the relationship to survive, and there are benefits to improving communication in your relationship.

For example:

  • You become emotionally connected
  • You become closer
  • You build trust
  • You improve your listening skills
  • You increase your quality time

How important is communication to your relationship? How important is it to improve communication in your relationship? Are you willing to make changes to acquire the benefits that comes with improving communication between you and your mate? I’ve learned that learning new ways to communicate isn’t hard, but changing is the most challenging.

Dr. LaWanda N. Evans

Dr. LaWanda N. Evans empowers and encourages women to love themselves, to make healthy relationship decisions, and positive changes in life that lead to happiness and improvement in their emotional and mental health. She encourages women to believe in themselves, to reach their full potential, to achieve their goals.

She teaches women and couples how to create healthy, lasting, loving and strong relationships and how to overcome unhealthy relationship patterns. She teaches practical ways to improve relationship and communication skills and decrease conflict.

Dr. Evans is a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Certified Counselor, Relationship Strategist, owner of The Healthy Relationship Institute, and the creator of The Truth About Your Relationship. She transforms the lives of women through counseling, coaching, speaking, and writing. You can learn more about her and the services she provides by visiting her website at

Dr. LaWanda N. Evans the creator of The Truth About Your Relationship: No Nonsense Relationship Tips for Single Women and the author up the upcoming book The Truth About Your Relationship: 7 Keys to Accepting the Truth, Letting Go, and Making Room for the Relationship God Has for You. Visit her website at follow her on  twitter at, Facebook and on YouTube

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