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Okay, so you’ve finally got their number. Woo-hoo! But what next?

The comedian Jerry Seinfeld once said that the best moment in a person’s life is the period between getting a job and actually starting it. It’s the golden period.

Flirty Text MessagesIt is a good moment (it makes us smile just thinking about it), but it’s not the BEST. The best moment in your life is the period between getting a hot babe’s number and actually flirting with them via text.

It’s magical. You’re SO happy that you’ve got their number, and you’re also pretty proud of yourself that you haven’t cracked a really lame joke or taken your flirting way too far yet.

So what is flirting, exactly? Flirting is the suggestion that things could get sexual without any certainty that it will.

And that’s the exciting thing about it – sexual tension just builds and builds, but there is only the promise that things can happen. There is no certainty.

It’s so tantalizing.

Ready to take this flirting to the next level? Let’s take a look at how to flirt via text.

1) Tease Them

Teasing is fun, but if you can’t tease the other person respectfully, you’re probably not going to get very far.

It should be harmless, and make you both giggle. It’s a great way of connecting, breaking down barriers, and relieving any tension.

For example, you could make fun of the way they looked when the wind blew their hair apart, but you need to do it tactfully and make sure they know you’re just teasing them.

2) Give Them a Nickname

Using nicknames is a great way to flirt with someone. Come up with a funny, cute nickname for them and greet them with it.

For example: Hey Dancing Queen!

Use it often, but not too much. Interchange it with their real name.

3) Be Prepared to Laugh at Yourself

Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can’t make fun of yourself, the other person is hardly going to have a good time talking to you. If you can dish out the banter, you have to be prepared to take it.

Make yourself the butt of jokes from time to time. Poke fun at yourself. It makes it so much easier for you to flirt, as it shows that you’re a relaxed, cheery person who just wants some FUN.

Just don’t hammer on yourself so hard that you sound like a sad sack with low self-esteem. It’s a fine line between charmingly self-deprecating and “this person has issues.” Be more Chris Pratt, less Woody Allen.

4) Keep Your Texts Short

Knowing how to flirt by text means knowing that you need to keep your texts short and snappy.

This is not a romantic novel. It’s not Jane Eyre. Sending huge walls of text will only kill the conversation, and the other person may even stop replying.

Always aim for the killer response that’s brief and to the point. Say all you need to say in just a few words. Sometimes even one word will do.

If a text is looking like it’s too longcut it down.

Flirting thrives on rapid fire, witty exchanges. The longer you take to reply, and the longer your messages are, the duller the conversation will become.

5) Be Funny!

The problem with this tip is that not everyone finds it easy to be funny via text. You might think you’re hilarious, but the reality is that your joke was as flat as a pancake.

And the other person just thinks you’re really lame.

If you’re not naturally funny, the next best thing to do is to watch funny movies, or look up funny quotes before tweaking them and using them in your texting conversations.

6) Keep Them Guessing

If the flirting is going well, it can be easy to break ranks and ask them if they want to meet up. It might be too early, though. They might not be ready for that yet. Even if they are, meeting up too soon kills all the mystery.

Flirting is only exciting when there’s a promise that things might develop sexually. What you need to do is build the tension and anticipation – not kill it off within 5 minutes by asking if they want to come over to your place for a little “Netflix and chill” action.

Keep it going. Don’t put your cards on the table too soon. Harness the sexual tension. Build it. Keep them guessing what your intentions and motives are.

7) Don’t Drag It Out

If it’s clear as day that this conversation is dying, get the heck out of there. Say you’re busy and have to leave for a bit. Don’t try to breathe new life into it and don’t drag it out.

The best flirty conversations are the short, snappy ones that leave the other person wanting more. If you drag a conversation out too long, you’re going to lose their interest.

Remember the old maxim of arriving at a party late and leaving early? You need to arrive to the texting conversation armed with some killer lines before leaving once you know you’ve done enough to arouse their interest.

Have some banter, make them giggle – and then get out before it dies.


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Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is passionate about communication & helping people improve their relationships.

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