Texting someone you really like is super exciting at first. You’ve both got LOTS to chat about, and it might even seem as though you’ll never run out of things to say. You could probably text back and forth forever and ever, right?
Eventually, though, text conversations peter out, fade away – and die. It’s natural, and it happens to everyone at some point.
We’ve all been there before, the longer the silence lasts, the more you worry that you’ve both completely run out of things to say.
“Is it over? Do we literally have nothing to talk about anymore? Like, NADA?”
It can make even a texting pro feel a little anxious, but the truth is that nobody ever really runs out of things to talk about. There are innumerable topics of conversation to draw upon; there is always something to bring up. So let’s dive into some tried and tested techniques for reviving flagging conversations.
1. Resume the Last Topic of Conversation
This is probably the best (and easiest) thing you can do if a conversation looks as though it’s flat-lining. Instead of scrambling around for a new topic and saying something lame, just take another look at the last topic you guys discussed and bring up a fresh point.
For example, if you were talking about your guy visiting his best friend, why not say something like, “I forgot to ask, is your best friend single? I might have a friend…”
2. Ask an Interesting Question
Asking a question is a great way of breathing new life into a conversation, but it’s important that you ask the right type of question.
For example, asking a closed-ended question which invites a one-word answer could easily put you back at square one, fumbling around for a new subject.
To make this easier, come up with a list of potential open-ended questions to ask whenever a text conversation is dying. These don’t have to be terribly original, they just have to stimulate further conversation. Ask, for instance, “What’s your favorite movie/book/sport?” or “Do you speak any foreign languages?”
3. Compliment Them
Everyone appreciates a compliment, and polite flattery is a sure-fire way to revive a conversation; the complimented party is obliged to reply, thanking you for your kind comment and probably reciprocating with a flattering remark of their own. It’s a win-win (of course, only if it’s an honest compliment).
Try complimenting them in the morning after a night of chatting. How? Start by just telling them that you were thinking about them during the night and that they’re amazing and special is a stellar way of restarting a conversation. As a bonus it will probably make them feel good – which also encourages them to open up and start talking some more.
4. Add Some Humor to Keep the Conversation Going
Text conversations don’t last long if you’re discussing serious topics all the time. If you guys have been talking and talking about negative things, it can put a real dampener on even a text convo.
So, use a splash of humor. Humor entertains the other person, keeps things light and interesting, and gives you a much better chance of keeping their interest.
After all, when we’re having a good time (even via text), we’ll do anything to keep it going.
Try a flirty comment or a funny reference to the last time you met. For example, if your date turned up dressed to the nines and looking incredible, your text the next day might be: “You looked really beautiful/handsome last night, but come on, would you mind dressing up a bit more next time?” Add a winky face emoji if you’re worried they’ll take your teasing seriously!
5. Do Something Interesting and Talk About It
Isn’t it frustrating when you ask someone what they’re up to and they respond with “not much”?
Lame. It doesn’t give you anything to work with.
So, why not step outside and do something interesting before returning and talking about it? “I just got back from paintballing; my body is one huge bruise!” or “I just took my dog for a walk and saw the most incredible sunset!” is way better than “I’m bored”.
6. Ask About Their Plans
So the conversation is dying. You’ve covered food, sports and movies. Now what?
You could keep it simple and ask about them and what plans they’ve got for the rest of the day. This is a nice way of shifting the conversation from external issues to the person you’re talking to. It involves them more, shows that you’re interested, and revives a fading conversation.
Asking about their plans shows that you want to keep the conversation going, and it also gives you something to talk about later on or tomorrow. For example, “So! How did it go?”
7. Show Them Something
This ditty has saved my dying conversations many times in the past. If I sense that a conversation is coming to a premature end, I say, “I have to show you something!” Then, I text a funny picture, an article or a new song I’m crazy about. It totally revives the conversation and sends it spinning in a whole new direction. It’s so simple, but so effective.
When the conversation dries up, it doesn’t automatically mean that you’re boring or incompatible or that you’ll never talk again. It can be worrying, but it’s a totally natural phenomenon. It happens to the best couples, the greatest friends and just about everyone on this planet. Now you know some great tricks to reroute dead-end discussions and breathe new life into fading text conversations, go forth and text without fear!
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