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Michael FioreAn internationally-known relationship expert, Michael Fiore has been called “the best male friend” of tens-of-thousands of women around the world. Michael is a Wall Street Journal and Amazon.com bestselling author, and has appeared on dozens of TV and radio programs, including “The Rachael Ray Show”.

In this short article, Michael explains the three main reasons men “pull away” from women… even when they seem intensely interested at first.


It Always Starts with a Spark…

Has this ever happened to you?

You meet a guy – maybe online, maybe at the gym, maybe you’re introduced by friends.

And at first, it’s magic.

You feel this incredible spark and have butterflies doing backflips in your stomach.

The way he looks at you, the way he smells, the way you feel in his arms … it’s all incredible.

You go out once or twice and it’s heaven. You feel electricity through your bones when you kiss. You stop it from going further. Or you don’t, and it’s like heaven.

And even though you know it’s foolish (even though you know it’s too soon) that little voice in the back of your mind starts making plans for a happy future you want so very, very much.

And then…

He’s gone.

He stops calling. He stops chasing you. And even if you see him in person that light is gone from his eyes.

And you’re left alone again.

Alone and heartbroken and feeling foolish and angry and wondering…

WHY?

Why do men come on so strong, get your hopes up, make you FEEL like that… only to PULL away when you’re right at the edge of something passionate and connected and wonderful?

I cover this in more detail in my recent video post, but here’s the quick answer:

Men pull away from women for 3 reasons…

Reason 1: The “Rubber Band Effect”

Men often pull away because a woman has the emotional “rubber band” pulled too tight on her side. She comes across as over-invested, over-close and over-eager too soon for his limited emotional software to handle.

Remember, guys want to CHASE a woman and need to feel like he EARNED her if he’s ever going to truly commit to you. Even if you feel like you’re taking things “emotionally slow” you might be triggering his flight instinct without even knowing it.

Reason 2: A Man Chooses

Men pull away because he has more interest in another woman, or his work or his hobbies. Sometimes this means a guy is a “Player” who’s just looking for sex (which is why you need to make a guy work for that first sexual encounter) but other times it’s because a woman hasn’t triggered deep enough attraction in a man to make him CHOOSE to be with her. 

Reason 3: The “Big Commitment”…

Here’s a huge mistake many women make in their online dating profiles:

Putting up something like “Must be looking for a serious relationship only.”

As a guy I can tell you that even great men who are ready and willing to be in something “serious” will run for the hills if he thinks he has to “buy the cow” before he’s even had a chance to get to know it. Again, it’s not that he doesn’t “want” a real relationship or that he’s not “ready” for one, it’s that HE has to make the choice…

So, now for the real question…

How do you get that one special guy to want you and only you?

How do you get by his “fear” and make him CHOOSE to be with you and only you?

How do you get the real love and real relationship with a real man that you’ve wanted for so very, very long?

For the answer to that, go watch this special video presentation I’ve put together for you.

It’s called “3 Ways to Make a Man Love You” and it reveals a secret psychological loophole in the male mind that makes a guy fall totally, passionately, overwhelmingly in love with you.

How do you know these “3 Ways” work?

Because they worked on me.

Three years ago I was a “player” who thought I’d never settle down…

Then I met one incredible woman….

Who did these three things…

And made me change my life forever…

Three Steps to Make a Man Love You

Michael Fiore

Internationally recognized as the foremost expert on how to have great relationships in the modern world, Michael is blunt, funny, and always honest.

In 2011, Michael appeared on “The Rachael Ray” show with his popular “Text The Romance Back Program” (Rachael said he gave her “chills”). Since then Michael has given women X-Ray vision into men’s minds with “The Secret Survey”, helped thousands rebuild relationships with “Text Your Ex Back”, and has become an Amazon Best Selling Author.

Michael lives in Seattle, WA and is currently hard at work on his next shocking, straightforward and really, really useful program.

What Do You Think?

14 Comments | Join the discussion

  • Norly Soleha Jan 6, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    The main thing in here is to be patient. Don’t rush things to happen. The man accepted you to be in his life is already a good accomplishment for us. Be cool. I have learned my lesson.

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  • kelly Jan 6, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    Well. I realized after the last relationship. I’m 48. So the men at my age are very set in their ways. If you say something or do something that worries them they run. We are just supposed to not show our worry when they rubber band. We are just supposed to just do our own thing until they come back. Well the last guy was rubber banding often. I think for us woman is to be happy with being alone. Enjoy your life. A real man will come when we least expect. Make him come to you. Be busy sometimes. Cancel like they do! I’m a very successful caring lady. But I’m emotionally tired of seeking them.

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  • harry Jan 6, 2015 at 8:36 am

    No1 : never give everything to a guy so quick.. Let both have space. Safe for u as by any case he turns out to be a players.. Its easy for you to move on.
    No 2: always self appreciate- you are the best; never think ur less for ur guy.. Remember; even before he came you had a life. Dont dreaming everything about and with him.
    No3: meet his buddies then relatives then family.. Do make him meet urs too. You will know whrn he stays stop. Generally boys want a sex piece and gals a true lover. Open your eyes ; boys turn a gentleman and value your gal. And gal turn a women and know ur happiness is within you and not in your guy.

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    • kelly   harry Jan 6, 2015 at 12:34 pm

      Great advice! We gals forget ourselves during a relationship especially in the begining.

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  • Anahita Nov 7, 2014 at 11:00 am

    these days I an experiencing the exact same thing… met a guy online, got intimate very soon and now after 5 month he is becoming history, no calls, no texts, nothing… tried to ask him the reason but every time his excuse was/is being busy with his work…. at the begining we made a very good connection…. seeing eye to eye in everything, but now!!!!!…. He went so far that even declined seeing each other in real:-(

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    • kelly   Anahita Jan 6, 2015 at 12:36 pm

      It stings! But be yourself as a great catch! Is he really what you want? Put it back on what you want not the disappointment of his actions! If he is lacking the things you seek. Walk. It was only 5 months not a lifetime. Good luck!

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      • Gladys   kelly Mar 27, 2015 at 3:12 pm

        My boyfriend and i got back together about two months ago badcthing is he seams sort of distant towards me hardly touches me when we sit together.very upsetting as im a cuddler hugger kissy kind of person.he says he loves me or does he really?

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  • Star Mar 4, 2014 at 10:44 am

    Men will forever be emotional cowards, that’s why they want to control every aspect of life even if it’s not theirs to control. Instead of just going with the flow…..it’s meant to be like Adam and Eve. But us women have to settle for the lesser version of the real thing…coz they destroy the experience with their contolling weak selves

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    • kelly   Star Jan 6, 2015 at 12:38 pm

      We give them that control. .we need to maintain ourselves.

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    • Brian   Star May 4, 2015 at 3:00 pm

      Really…like really?
      I can say that I don’t want to control everything…the fact is I’m much too busy to worry about controlling someone else…I want a woman who can control herself and is intelligent enough to know that using terms like “every”, “always”, and “never” are not factual and over dramatize a situation. Like I read your comment and was like oh yeah here’s a clear cut jaded woman who hates men and categorizes them…probably isn’t happy with any of her relationships and constantly judges her partners off past partners mistakes. Idk but I try my best to see how people are and i give people the chance to show me who they are without biased. Like maybe keeping an open mind and looking for the answers within oneself fire reasons why your relationships fail would be most beneficial for you and your life. Js, maybe I’m right…but maybe I’m wrong and like a typical controlling male I’m jus trying to tell you you’re wrong and to feel a certain way…Lol I can’t see into the hearts of people with my mind closed and intuition set to find the bad on everyone.

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    • Claire   Star May 4, 2015 at 8:00 pm

      Sadly i agree with every single word you said . But i deserve better and so do you . I walked after staying with who i thought was the love of my life for far far too long, yes im sad but the sense of refief i feel is so much stronger . Im free and im never going back to someone who didnt appreciate me . Good luck girls ! X

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      • misleading   Claire Aug 24, 2015 at 5:25 am

        I understand a lot of what people are saying. But i have been in this so called relationship for almost two years.Not much has changed either It was heaven when we first met.Now not much happening..if he isnt working he is on his computer playing his games ,chatting or just reading..our sex life well to me i feel like its a chore for him to make love.I feel he just isnt that interested in me.he always says he loves me but his actions tell me different..I told him actions speak louder than words.He says that isnt true..there is so much more to say but ill leave it there..I just dont understand..I am a very loving person.but i just dont feel the love coming back..Maybe i just need to move on even though i love this man..Please give me some insite..Thanks…

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  • abbie Jun 4, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    Im a transgendered will this one work for me? And on dating online?

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  • kavanaugh May 22, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    thanks so much

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