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“Talk dirty to me…”

It’s the title of rock and pop songs…

It’s something you’ve probably been asked to do…

And maybe you fumbled around with trying to come up with a response…

Maybe you just changed the subject and hoped he didn’t ask again!

No matter how you personally feel about talking dirty, you totally get that guys love dirty talk. But have you ever wondered why is dirty talk so arousing to him?”

Look no further as I’m here to give you the low-down on the dirty. Knowing why he loves it when you talk dirty gives you an unfair advantage. It’s sort of like having advanced sexy ninja skills to make him putty in your presence.

Come with me as we uncover the specifics to why talking dirty drives men wild!

1. Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets

Woman Showing How to Talk Dirty to a GuyIf you have a ladylike public persona but behind closed doors you let explicit phrases tumble from your mouth, the contradiction gives him a big charge of excitement. He knows that he is the only one who gets to see this naughty side of you. Like he’s the one who inspires you to be uninhibited and that’s intoxicating to his ego.

And even if you aren’t the pinnacle of propriety, seeing you transform into a dirty little vixen for his eyes only gives him a titillating thrill. This heightens all of his senses and makes everything that much more arousing for him.

2. He feels like a rockstar sex god

When you let loose with a string of moans and screams mixed with a variety of sexy play-by-plays and dirty directives, you show him just how much you f#$%ing LOVE what he’s doing to you. Your unbridled expressions of bliss tell him in no uncertain terms that he’s rocking your socks.

You see, men are hard-wired in their brains to please us sexually. This goes all the way back to cave man days. However, in modern life, there are so many mixed signals both genders give that can get in the way of him knowing he’s “done his job” of satisfying you. Dirty talk cuts right through all the gray and speaks to him clearly.

3. Your confidence slays him

A woman who can confidently use dirty talk to get what she wants in bed is downright seductive. Most men are helplessly drawn to women who aren’t afraid to express themselves sexually. He doesn’t have to play guessing games as to how to turn you on when you tell him exactly what you want.

And your use of dirty talk clues him in that you are far from uptight or inhibited. A good time is in store for you both!

4. Dirty talk equals enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is such a huge turn-on for men. In fact, enthusiasm is consistently ranked as the #1 thing that makes a man feel like sex is awesome. Think about it, a quiet partner can be misunderstood as a bored or distracted partner, and that can put a big damper on the sexy mood. He ends up wondering if he’s pleasing you which can bring up insecurities for him.

When you talk dirty, not only are YOU 100% present and in the moment, it proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are enjoying yourself. That level of engagement with what’s happening between you two validates that he’s pleasing you, refer to #2 above!

All of the reasons above activate different chemicals in his brain and are hitting some of the big triggers for his sex drive. Who knew that there was some science behind talking dirty?

Of course, not every woman feels comfortable launching into dirty talk, and if that sounds like you, you are not alone. If you’ve thought “I’m too shy to talk dirty!” or you simply want to know exactly how to talk dirty to a man I’d love to show you! All I ask is you don’t let your fears stop you from incorporating this fun technique into your sex life!

Three easy ways to ease into naughty talk are to…

Happy Woman Doing Dirty Talks by Texting1. Start by texting

A simple “I can’t stop thinking about…” followed by a message like “you naked” or “the way you satisfied me last night” or “how bad I want you right now” are ways to get your point across without being totally explicit. It’s a great place to start.

2. Give a naughty play-by-play

When you are having sex, you can describe out loud how much you love what he’s doing. Tell him how good he feels, tell him you don’t want him to stop, or give him directions on what to do next.

3. Take a deep breath and let it fly!

It helps to think of getting into character. What would the naughty vixen version of you say to him? Play that role and don’t censor what dirty words fly out of your mouth!

In the program The Language of Desire I teach you ways to get over any shyness you may feel about talking dirty and give you over 200+ dirty phrases that are totally done for you. I coach you through step-by-step exactly how to talk dirty to your guy and get comfortable saying naughty things.

Naughty phrases guaranteed to drive him wild!

Felicity Keith

Felicity Keith dishes advice on sex, dating, and love. She is the author of The Language of Desire and The Psystrology Method

Drop her a line at or to ask your burning relationship questions!

What Do You Think?

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  • jeanne Nov 16, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    I become more aroused as well when my man does as well. We don’t use the four letter slang words that can also be demeaning, but a lot of encouraging words…like that’s so good,.do that more, you’re making me so hot for you by stroki g that way….all can be said by either gender to move things along.

  • Angie Nov 16, 2014 at 7:54 am

    I am on the some boat as Venus I am in a long distance relationship and the dirty talk and letting him know what I like and want is so fun. I promise you ladies they love and it will charge your sexually relationship like never before. I used to be so shy in a bed but now I love telling him exactly what I want and finding out exactly what he wants so we can get down to business!!

  • Venus Oct 26, 2014 at 1:36 am

    My man and I talk on the phone almost every night because we have a long distance relationship and only see each other every couple of months, but he starts the dirty talk and I always respond in the way he loves, this is keeping our relationship fresh and alive, and when we do make love it’s fantastic.

  • Rose Oct 24, 2014 at 7:32 am

    My man LOVES IT when I talk dirty to him… as a matter of fact, he starts the dirty talks. I can tell he LOVES not just what I do but what I say also. He never complains about me being a dirty girl. He knows what I like and vice versa, we don’t make love ALL the time, but when we do; we make up for the time lost. and dirty talk helps both of us get aroused. I definitely love it and wouldn’t change it for anything. Us women have to satisfy our man the right way if we don’t want him running around on us.

  • camo'n'pink Oct 23, 2014 at 5:46 am

    Wow… i really enjoyed this article 🙂 learned a lot… gonna have to try some of these things, i do believe 🙂

  • Julia Oct 23, 2014 at 5:32 am

    What if my man is intimidated by sexy talk? I’d always heard it was a turn on but not this guy. He acted like I was dirty n accused me of being a hoe.

    • icq469   Julia Oct 23, 2014 at 8:15 am

      Upgrade your role in the relationship, lead by example…
      If that does not work, perhaps upgrade ‘Him’…

    • vanesa   Julia Oct 23, 2014 at 5:50 pm

      He doesnt like dirty talk then. But talk to him, he shouldnt be.callibg you names.

    • Italkdirty   Julia Oct 26, 2014 at 12:04 pm

      Get out now while you still have your dignity…


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